I am having SD issues. My SD was dropped off to us in June by her mother who has only seen her three times since. Twice for three hours and once for a weekend a few weeks back. Mother of SD will not take her regularly at all even though we try all the time to call, text, and email her about visiting. Her sister on the other hand has not been over in a year. She says she hates her dad. Mother wants to make deal with girls. Dad gets younger daughter 12 at the time but now 13 and she gets older daughter 13 at the time but now 14. And says he is to never visit with the oldest anymore. Well he has battled her in court for 10 years with no judicial help or support at all. But regardless to the situation going on in court with all of them this is not what my problem is. First when she came to live with is it was OK for a bit then it was a fight for her to pick up after herself. Then she would leave messes in and around the toilet. I even found dirty underwear thrown behind her dresser. She would not shower and we still have a hard time with that. She is dirtier than my boys ever thought of. She wont brush her hair. She has her dad do it for her. She sits on his lap and lays all over him at times. Although when she does this I do tell them both it doesn't look right. This child is the size of a full grown woman. She is 5'1" and over 200 lbs. She lies to us on a daily basis over stupid stuff. We catch her all the time. Before she came to live with us we decided to have a child together. Since then I have lost a pregnancy. In which she would stand in my face push me and wished the baby to die. We also found letters she had been writing.g to her mother and sister calling me and her father names and telling them that we finally lost the baby. We are now pregnant again and she is doing the same stuff. Telling lies and trying to cause fights between her dad and I. She never gets in trouble. I am the only one who takes things from her for her actions. Her dad just says things like. Little lady that's not nice or little lady that's wrong. There is no consequence to her actions at all. I am 40 years old and 15 weeks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy. I fear for my well being at the moment. Is it wrong for me to want this child to go back to her mother? What do I do? I feel like no one knows what I go through.