With all due respect, I understand that losing my cool is not the way to handle a situation... however, it is over and done with. I did exchange words with BM and did feel that she should be thanking me instead of talking trash! I get so sick of this!!!! So, I do raise your kid (regardless of what anyone thinks, DH and I raise ss in a family environment.) I treat him like any other child I would have in my care! Meaning I scold him, educate him, hug him goodnight, cook for him, etc. And no DH does not expect this, but ss does not understand. He stated that he thought that he was just my son (when I referred to him as my ss). He is 9 and I have been there for him since he was 4ish. He considers me a "bonus mom". BM is sliding more and more out of his life and by me being around he naturally looks for me to fill the void. Now, that being said... why is it that I am only expected to bite my tongue when it comes to BM? I play cordial, but she pushed it to far! I am fine for her to speak to when it is under her terms? Her and DH only exchange emails and text as well as her and I if we need to communicate (ex. if I am the one with ss). I posted earlier in the week a vent post about how I did exchange words with BM... Now I feel as though I am the villan. Now I have been on this site for a cpl of years and I get that not all situations are the same. I am just wondering though, if I have no rights then I have the right to be any way I want right? Seriously unless bm recorded our heated discussion then oh well. Hell even if she did, I have plenty of emails, texts showing where she was more than willing to speak to me over DH. Now I do not care either way. They have a very acrimonious relationship and generally speaking (with this one exception) I keep my cool. So what's the big deal?!?

I make decisions for my household! SS lives in my household. She will not come into my house and yell at ss or myself ( she now stays on the lawn) until she decided to put me in a bad spot. SO I confronted her and kicked her off my property. I would not let anyone else speak to me with such disrespect as she chooses to when her feathers are ruffled and this was the last time. I have seen my limit and I choose not to go back there. From now on I will not be any part of her manipulation. She is lucky if doesn't get a "your welcome" every time she says hello to me. Send your emails, I will refer you to DH, same with text and any other line of communication! I will not be her puppet! One minute I am a ***** and the next minute her bff?! Easy psycho barbi!

Call me naive, but I think I had to get burned before I realized that I was too close to the fire... We all make mistakes and Trust and believe LESSON LEARNED!