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Only seem to fight when it involves ss!

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Submitted by swstepmom on Fri, 02/18/2011 - 9:51pm

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So my dh just left the house for a bit because he is upset that we didn't get to see "his people" as he just so graciously put it. He says I don't even care if we see his mom and my ss and he is tired of telling everyone no....well we ended up not being able to go this weekend because of money issues....i felt it would be so stupid to go since we didn't even have 100 dollars to our name not to mention not even got diapers,wipes, food for the week yet(it's a 4 hour trip one way). My ss10 was mainly mad because he isn't going to get his "toy" that we were bringing him this weekend and my dh is going to mail it tomorrow for him. My dh is mad at me and bm because my ss called and yelled at his bm for us not coming and for her not coming to get him out of school to tell him as soon as she found out. I think that his bm should not have to take heat for us not coming and he says we are expecting him to act like an adult....NO just respect. I am not even mad at my ss, I know he must be upset that we aren't coming and that he isn't getting his toy. I just get so frustrated because the ONLY time my dh and I fight is when ss has something to do with anything......

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Submitted by swstepmom on Fri, 02/18/2011 - 10:48pm

After talking my dh I am now finding out that he just wanted to get away and really didn't have much to do with seeing my ss or my mil. Of course he wanted to see ss but it wasn't as important to him as just getting away for a day or so. SS is with this "dad" this weekend which is the guy who he believes is his real dad and I can understand that since he really doesn't have that much of a relationship with my dh. I I feel so bad if my ss feels let down....believe me when I say that i do love this little boy dearly. Things just tend to pile up and i end up getting so frustrated especially when my dh feels forced to care/father my ss. My dh is a wonderful husband and father to our bd1 and he is a great father when my ss is here although ss doesn't see him that way clearly. My dh told me he realizes that when ss is ready that he will want my dh in his life and not until.....my ss just sees us as babysitters right now. Maybe it will always be this way but maybe not. The situation is just hard to deal with no matter how i look at it. Thanks so much for your advice...and it really is taken to heart.