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SugarSpice's picture

i dont know if any one posted this, but the story of the steo dad who was used as a cash cow is now on you tube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_pYN7PA3GE

TwoOfUs's picture

Yeah. I want to like this story...except if/when stepmoms do this kind of thing, people think they're evil and awful. Hopefully the double standard will disappear one day.

ldvilen's picture

I agree. I was thinking the exact same thing. SMs have been treated this way for centuries and no one says a word. Suddenly, it happens to a step-dad vs. step-mom, and it is all over the net about poor ol' step-dad.

But, baby steps are better than no steps at all (no pun intended). Maybe this will open a couple of people's eyes.

still learning's picture

Funny how a stepfathers money and place in the family is sacred and should be protected and everyone jumps on board while a stepmother needs to just pay out and shut up. It's ok to seperate SM from her spouse, sit her in the back facing a wall, ignore her the whole time yet still have her pay for a significant portion of the wedding. No one bats an eye but just puts her in her place telling her that this day is about the bride not her!

This story is great and no one should be mistreated and used for their finances, yet it also exposes societies drastic differing attitudes and expectations between SMs and SFs. SM's need to sacrifice and disappear into the background while SF's do not.

ldvilen's picture

I find most are extremely ignorant, and I mean extremely, about SMs. I’ve even come across some posts where the assumption is that pretty much all SMs cheated with dad on BM prior to marrying him. This category is only 5-10% tops of all SMs.

Other assumptions are that SM is a much younger trophy wife or at least some kind of gold-digger. It never occurs to many of these people that SMs may be the same age as their DH or even older or EVEN make more money that their DH. Really! These stereotypes that so many seem to believe are utterly ridiculous.

Another assumption is that SM is more or less dad’s toy, so SM and dad can be off to the side having their fling, even though they may be married or have been married for quite some time. Dad can do his thing with her, but no one else in the family, including SKs, even have to acknowledge her presence, other than maybe saying Hello to her as they walk through the door and throw their bags on the sofa, expecting dad or his woman to pick it up.

Since SM is seen as an object, then things that should be obvious to anyone as far as how to treat a husband and wife or man and SO, are completely thrown out the window. BM and SKs can make whatever plans they want for their father, because he is still owned by them. They don’t even have to clue pops in on it. SM, well, they can put her or do with her whatever they want, or just pretend she doesn’t exist. No one will mind or say a word, AND most people don’t.

All of the above reeks of blatant stereotyping. sexism and discrimination. Yet it still goes on in the year 2017 and no one says a word.