not biological but im dad
I live in southern illinois and getting ready to go through a divorce after 5 years and 10 years of being together. My wife recently told me she wasnt happy and was moving out. 2 weeks later she told me that my son wasnt mine and she was filing for divorce. I signed his birth certificate. And have been there the whole time the 3 years he has been alive. But Im stuck and I dont know what to do. She wont let me see hi or talk to him for the past 2 weeks. Come to find out the biological father of my son is my bestfriend who was also the best man at my wedding. No one is willing to help me at all and I have very little money. But I was wondering if they can strip away my rights even though Ive been there and signed the birth certificate and what steps I can take to see him.
Please help
I agree with dtzyblnd. My FH
I agree with dtzyblnd.
My FH is not the father of my DD, but he has been with me through pregnancy and now a year and a half of her upbringing. Her Bio has not been in the picture, no contact at all. And in my state if the Bio hasn't had contact with the child they give up their parental rights.
Also if you're on the birth certificate a paternity test is the only thing that can prove to the court that you're NOT the bio. But she could F*ck you on CS.
My FH has the same situation happen to him, but he found out about the affair beweet his EX and his best friend. He had a paternity test done on my SD, and it turns out she was his.
I'm sorry this happened to you, it really sucks. I hope the situation gets better for you.
Good luck.
I don't know what state your
I don't know what state your in but here in Wisconsin they have something about if the baby was born in the marriage, the baby belongs in the marriage. So if you have been providing support for this child and have been the Dad I would definitely address it in court. Here is some other things, they might sound vindictive though.
If this happened to me, I would sue the actual father for psychological distress (no I am not sue happy, never sued in my life but this would drive me to it).
I would ask her if she even cares for that child since she has no issue pulling away the one person that child sees as a father. I have a 3 year old, there is no way I could pull her away from her father, she knows who he is.
I would also look into seeing if bio father can get charged in this somehow. I mean I know no one really pushes this but it would be fun to try, get him for committing adultery and your wife.
Next, I will keep you in my prayers. I am so sad to hear this is going on. That would kill me to think I may lose my baby. Thinking of you and keep us posted.
I live in Illinois. And they
I live in Illinois. And they did their on paternity test and she says Im not the dad but yet I havent seen it. I dont care about child support I'll pay whatever it takes to have him in my life. Im not ashamed of him only that his mom had to be this way
I think its horrible what his
I think its horrible what his mom did to both him and you. Also if you have to pay support, guess what, then she has to let you see him. You sound like a good father being able to put this all aside and still want to be his father. Anyone can be a donor but it takes someone wonderful to be a dad. You keep fighting for him.
Also I would not believe it
Also I would not believe it if I were you until you get to see the paternity test yourself. She could be just not wanting you in his life and trying to keep you from him.
Legally the baby is born of
Legally the baby is born of the marriage and it belongs to you until otherwise proven. You need to find a layer and at the minimum, get a one hour consult to become aware of your rights. Right now, since there is no court order you both have equal rights to the child and she cannot secret him from you.
http://www.childsupportillino
http://www.childsupportillinois.com/general/hfs3282.html
Here is a sight I found with Illinois laws of paternity.
It does say in the the third paragraph that if you were married when the child was born he is LEGALLY your paternal son.
Hopes this helps you.
Like I said I just dont have
Like I said I just dont have alot of money. Ive worked the whole ten years to take care of her my daughter and my boy. She is in the process of trying to get the divorce. but since she hasnt let me see him or talk to him I fear they are trying to brain wash him of me being his dad. And thats why I cant see him since he has been staying out at my mother in laws with them. Trust me this shit makes me sick. Bot not even the local police will help since its civil and Land of Lincoln wont help me because its not domestic abuse case. Im just fired up right now
A consultation is free,
A consultation is free, granted its only for an hour, but the lawyer who consults with you will tell you what your rights are. And what is legal for your ex to do.
My FH did this to his EX when she threatened to take SD from him. He went to every lawyer in our area and some of the best lawyers an hour out of town, and just did the free consultations with them and once he did that the lawyer/s could not see his EX because it was conflict of interest. If she tried to ever pull that sh*t again she would have to get a lawyer almost 4 hours away and pay the costs for that.... Just saying if you're feeling in that kind of mood.
thanks for some indight guys
thanks for some indight guys dont put my mind to rest at all but helps. I'll sell everything i have to keep him house truck the whole 9 yards. Just everywhere I go I get no solid advice on what to do or how to go about it and when I try I get dnied because the divorce isnt filed yet or my case is unique if i had $3500 Id be good but when your a wokring man it doesnt happen
I know you said you had no
I know you said you had no one to help you but is there ANY family or friend out there that would help you considering the circumstances? You would be surprised when you are at rock bottom, you really do find out who your friends are.
I will keep you and the financial end that you need in my thoughts and prayers.
((((Hugs)))) I am all sorry
((((Hugs)))) I am all sorry for your pain.
You are legally Dad and have those rights and responsibilities until legally removed. Mom cannot just decide you aren't dad. How easy or difficult that is depends on several factors - state laws, child's age, bio dad willing to step up etc.
Call a lawyer.protect yourself and your child.
You can't afford NOT to have
You can't afford NOT to have an attorney. You need to beg, borrow, or steal to get one. Seriously, it is that dire. Snap out of it and get proactive.