New husband wants a divorce because 11y/o SD is manipulating him
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My husband of 6 months is so obsessed with his 11 y/o daughter that he even sleeps with her when she is with us every other week. This child has put perfume in my contacts case, has whined and begged her dad to get back with BM, even though BM would never take him back. She has lied, connived and mad life HELL since day one of married life. I don't want a divorce and he told her we were no longer going to be married a week before he even told me! She must have his full attention all of the time or she pouts. She's never been disciplined before and has no manners! What I am supposed to do??? I'm so devastated!
My DH and SD were the same
My DH and SD were the same when we met. It got real old real quick! I made a stand and it is no longer like it. All the best
After six months? LOL Not
After six months? LOL Not going to happen. The court is most likely to make them "whole" by putting them in the same financial position as they were before the wedding. OP is not going to make a killing off this.
He's agreed to play for my
He's agreed to play for my last 2 semesters of college & will let me live in his house and not pay any bills while I finish. We have only been married 6 months and I haven't even gotten to move my furniture and things into the house (all in storage units that I pay for) since we've been married! No children together~ we are both 44 yrs old. How could my husband have changed his mind so fast?
We dated for 6 months and
We dated for 6 months and there were things I questioned, but was reassured that it was difficult on SD when her mom left. I've heard "delicate situation" until I want to throw up. She is a spoiled rotten, gossipy, manipulating, immature 11 year old. I HATE that I love him!
I have a job, pay my own way
I have a job, pay my own way but would like to finish school. I don't want to uproot my 16BD. He and I don't fight, we sleep in seperated rooms and haven't had sex in 2 months and I don't plan on it either! I used my savings to buy a new car, I wrecked my vehicle, and had no idea he was planning this. I have no family~ parents, grandparent are deceased. I'm just planning a better future for myself.
Stay in his house, eat his
Stay in his house, eat his food, use his gas, electricity....etc. Use all the resources you can get from him to feed your own future. Leave when you are ready. He owes you all that, he's a world class jerk.
Y'all are right... He
Y'all are right... He portrayed himself to be something he wasn't! I will start looking for a place or he can move in with his mother while I "rent" the house. Would that be acceptable if he moved out while I finish 14 hours & graduate? I know it seems crazy, but I don't qualify for grants & I don't want any loans. My daughter knows how strong I've always been & says boot the hipocrite out & change all the locks & make him move out!
There is nothing worse than a
There is nothing worse than a 'mini-wife' and being the other woman!
He sleeps with his
He sleeps with his daughter...that is friggin' GROSS (although I know nothing's happening) and inappropriate. No wonder the kid is so screwed up.
I'd hit him with divorce papers too. Either he will wake up and get his daughter intense counseling or you can just walk away from this.
Many kids want their parents back together. Again, she needs to be in counseling for this and discussing it with a counselor.
This kid needs intense professional help. Hopefully her father will pull his head out of his a$$ and get her some intense help ASAP.
I agree with a lot of these
I agree with a lot of these others posters. Hit his ass hard with some divorce papers and a lawyer that'll tear him to shreds. He deserves it.
AS a college student that has $41K in student loan debt, I do not feel sorry for you at all if you have to take out a couple loans for 14 credit hours. I'm sorry, school costs money and you can't always base your education on getting it for free with grants.
Also, your daughter is 16. She's at that age where she is emotional and developing a personality quickly. You need to talk to her about your behavior, let her know that you're going to be a strong woman and stand up to this BS. Teach her this is NOT something any woman should take... As it stands, she probably goes to her friends and tells them that her mother is love sick and she's stuck in a house with a crazy step father and annoying step sister. She SEES you. You gotta let her know that you are going to come out of this ahead, his balls in hand. Time to take it back, sister.
Look at your post. No sex in
Look at your post. No sex in 2 months and you've been married for 6 months??? If you need to be told- something is very, VERY effed up and not normal here. And a poor example for your BD of marriage. Cut your losses and move on! It doesn't matter if he misrepresented himself or what promises he's made, you need to let all that extraneous stuff go and get out of this bizarre situation.(p.s.- when DH and I were 6 months married we were breaking in the kitchen table, the basement, and at night the front porch lol)Good luck and God bless.
I would call CPS and report
I would call CPS and report him as a likely molester. I would also file for an RO since you are obviously in danger due to his molesting tendencies.
File for divorce, boot his ass out of the house, freeze all of the assets, use them to finish school then let his ass rot in the gutter or pick up the soap in prison for bubba the lifer.
He married you knowing full well he had no intention of sharing your marital bed or building a married life with you.
In closing, sue his ass for anything you can think of. Fraud, emotional damage, etc, etc, etc....
If you do not notify CPS then you are complacent in this situation and are exposing not only your SD-11 to him but your own BD-16. I do not think you should expose the children or yourself to that risk.
Make the call.
I'm done with my marriage,
I'm done with my marriage, talked with BD this morning & she said now that she is able to drive herself places (we live 30 miles from the nearest grocery store & also her high school) that she is okay with us moving & living in a manor that she isn't used to~ I'm thankful for her, because most teens think only about themselves & money. I'm going to look for a place to rent, I've contacted a friend who is an Attorney & I'm going to sue for divorce & whatever else I can... & he will still pay for my college. I will call cps as soon as possible (anonymously)! I just need some encouragement! I work from home & don't have a lot of friends that I could share this with! Thanks & I'll post my outcome! Blessings!