My stepson keeps telling me he hates me, doesn't like me.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1.5 years. He has an almost 3 yr old son who i've been around for a little around a year, Named jack. We moved in together about 6 months ago and just recently Jack has been saying "I don't like you", "i don't love you" And won't let me do anything for him, or even look at him! It makes for a very hard/long days with him and i know even though it could be a phase, i sometimes wonder if his other family is putting ideas into his head. Any ideas on how to deal with this issue? Sometimes i just ignore it, but its very hurtful and makes me not want to be around him. We need some help!
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Yes, his other family is
Yes, his other family is putting ideas in his head.
The only way you can change this situation is if BF backs you up on creating consequences for this behavior. I would personally send him to time out, but there are many other options as well.
He is being rude, and regardless of his age he should not be able to behave in this fashion.
What does your BF say about this?
My BF gets angry, and usually
My BF gets angry, and usually puts him in a time out until he apologizes. BUT...he's one of those children that do anything to get attention. even if it is negative. I'm just worried that i'm too strict to him or something and i'm going to make him think i'm the evil step mom.
This is normal in 3 yo's.
This is normal in 3 yo's. It's a stage where they are learning they are a separate entity. My response to my bk was always....that's fine, I love you enough for the both of us. And you don't have to love me but you do have to listen/respect me.
That is a good response. We
That is a good response. We have been trying to just ignore it, but i'm not sure that is the best way. Thanks for the advice.