It's almost 3:00 AM, and I am floored by what I learned today.  Almost five months ago, my husband and I had to remove my step-kids from their mother's home, because she and her boyfriend/fiance were abusive and neglectful.  My step-daughters are 14 and 11, and the 14-year-old made a bold decision to no longer keep her mother's secrets about what was going on in their home. Therefore, when the kids came to visit one weekend, the oldest one told my husband and I everything and begged us not to send them back. Their mother always struggled with issues like drug and alcohol abuse, so my husband was awarded custody years ago.  However, his ex subsequently lied and said that she was dying of cancer to get the kids back. She only wanted to have her girls back during her final days, and she promised that she was getting help for drug dependency. My husband wanted the kids to spend as much time with their mother before she died, (She was even bold enough to tell this lie in court) so he allowed her to keep the kids during her final days  (or so he thought). Fast forward a few years later, and she is getting into serious legal trouble, allowing her fiance to treat her kids like crap,  giving the kids stimulus money to her fiance to keep him out of jail for not paying his child support, and working full-time to take care of her felon fiance while he lays on her couch all day. Oh, and the lie about her saying that she had terminal cancer to get the kids back? When you ask her about this now, she says that she doesn't know what anyone is talking about, and she never said she was dying of lung cancer.  Any judge would disagree since she memorialized this lie in court. 

When my step kids came to live with my husband and I, I knew that they would come with their fair share of issues due to the fact they were abused and neglected. So, I poured everything into my step-kids to make them feel safe and loved.  I also had to teach them things like how to wash their private areas, (because I could smell them even when they were five feet away) to take showers daily, and how to brush their teeth. These girls are 11 and 14, and yes, everyone on my side of the family  tried to help them with their hygiene for years. However, they would always stop caring about their hygeine the second they returned to their mother. Last year, the 11 year old told her aunt, who had a history of miscarriages and FINALLY carried a baby over three months, that I was starving her. So, her pregnant aunt was furious with me, and we got into a huge argument. Fast forward to this year, and I started hearing the same story again. I am not feeding her.. I don't talk to her.. I don't take care of her...I am cruel to her and only nice to my child.  However, the 14 year old began calling out her younger sister for lying on me, and she told those who believed the lies about me that they were, in fact, lies. Then, the younger sister started going after my six year old son with autism (their half brother). So, she started telling lies about my son, and doing things to intentionally hurt him. No matter how kind and forgiving I was, she always did the same thing over and over...lie about my son and work diligently to hurt my son. Unfortunately, she knows how to look innocent while she continuously lies about others. So, she is great at getting adults to believe her. 

Earlier today, I finally found out WHY she kept lying on my son and I. She loves to insult my son with autism about his looks (Which I don't understand, because all three of the kids are beautiful. All of the kids are multiracial, but my step kids  look more African-American. However, my son's race is ambiguous to many since he is very light with blond hair).  After she insulted my son's appearance, I sent her to her room, and I instructed my son to play a game while I talked privately with his sister. The words that I heard come out of my youngest step-kid's mouth has completely changed my relationship with her, and I don't know if it's salvageable. So, when her pregnant aunt was mad at me last year, that was my step-kid's objective. She wanted her aunt to physically attack me. So, why did she continuously lie about my son and I? She said that she tells as many lies on my son and I, because she doesn't like us. In fact, it went beyond just dislike. She wanted their grandparents to hate my son and I, so we would not have the support of my in-laws. Furthermore, since my step-kids know about CPS (Child Protective Services) and social workers due to the situation with their mother, my step-kid TOLD me that she intentionally lied and said I was neglectful, so CPS could take my child away from me. The darkest part us when she said the following: 

I see what I do to you like a video game, and I have a mission. My mission was to mess up your life. Whenever I lied about you and your son, I viewed it as me earning points and accomplishing my mission.

  I WAS FLOORED! When Iearned that she was intentionally trying to ruin the lives of my son and I, I asked her to tell her older sister exactly what she was doing.  I knew at that moment what lengths she would go to in order to hurt my son and I. This is not even counting when she writes in her journal about hurting my son. I needed a witness, because I don't think ANYONE would believe me if I said that my 11 year old step kid pretended that the lives of my son and I are like a video game,. Furthermore, she earns points any time she hurts us. I also pulled out my phone to record her. 

So, I now know that my youngest step-kid wants to hurt my son and I by any means necessary. Her goal was to "Get rid of him" and my son adores her.  There were times when my son would be okay, and as soon as my youngest step-kid entered the room, he would cry or have a tantrum. Now, I know why this happened.  I now have to protect my own son against one of his sisters. Furthermore, I have to keep proof of what she is doing, because one day, an adult WILL believe her lies about me and contact CPS. So, I now have a recording of her admitting that she has been actively trying to destroy my life for at least a year. 

So, why is she doing this? I did not take her dad away from her mother. In fact, her father and I were high school sweethearts. I was his first love, and this was years before my husband even met her mother. When we finally ran into each other years later, we both were divorced,  and their mother was living with another man. Am I being nice to her? The oldest girl is the one who has hated me for YEARS. She wanted out of her mother's house, but she initially had her reservations about me. Now, she says I am one of her best friends. I thought I had a decent relationship with my youngest step-kid until recently. My youngest step-kid just hates me, and she refuses to listen to her older sister when she asks her to give me a chance. 

My step-kids are petrified of their mother's fiance, and he was one of the strongest reasons why my oldest step kid no longer want to stay there. Both of the kids had to pull him off of their mother when he was choking her. She kicked him out, and he threatened to kill her. A few days later,  the kids' biological mother forgives her abusive partner, and he brings his child from a previous relationship to her home. The child, who is EIGHT YEARS OLD had a gun and knife in his bookbag. He told my step-kids that his father was abusive to his mother, and he needed to hide his dad's gun and knife to keep his dad from killing my step-kids' biological mother. Oh, the mother also refuses to pay child support. She claims she is broke, but then she went on an elaborate vacation with her fiance. He is a convicted felon who is unemployed, so she used her kids' stimulus checks to take her felon boyfriend on vacation. However, she was dumb enough to post extensively about her vacation online.  I look forward to handing those photos and posts to the judge who will make her finanially support her own kids. 

We all know the saying "hurt people hurt people". I know that my youngest step-kid  is hurt  by what her mother did to her. She wants to pretend that her mother did not abuse and neglect her, and she wants to go back to that environment. I understand that a lot of step-mothers raise kids who dislike them, and the hate sometimes never go away.  However, what actions do you take when a step-kid wants people to physically injure you, fantasizes about hurting your biological child with a disability, and intentionally says buzz words to any adult that will listen in order to make people believe that I am a neglectful parent in order to "get rid of" my kid?  I don't understand this level of hatred that is inside of my step-daughter. 

I usually worry abouh grammar, punctuation, etc., but I am so shocked about what happened. Therefore, excuse the typos!