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A little Laugh for your Monday - BM - delusional Much? Maybe too many drugs

rollercoasterirder's picture

Every year around this time all hell breaks loose. This is when loser BM, hasn’t worked for over 2 years, even though her 18 yo son lives with her, her bf is the one providing for them, sometimes there isn’t food in the refrigerator, etc, has to come up with the tickets for her boys to fly out to visit her for the summer. Every year, she has an entire year to come up with the money and she never does. FYI, she doesn’t give my DH any child support for her 2 boys. Anyhow, she calls my DH about 2 months ago saying that she is going to file her taxes (if she works or files taxes, they are garnished to pay for her back child support payments). Anyways, she continues to tell him, you need to help me pay for the boys’ tickets to fly out here. My DH tells her that no way, she needs to come up with the money and he also gives her a few things she needs to do if she wants they to come. He also gave her the dates of the youngest’ s graduation ceremony because she always books flights at she wishes without considering the events that are going on in her boys’ life. Thursday my DH gets a text where she tells him, I’m booking the boys’ flights tonight, they are arriving on 6/5, this would mean that her son would miss his 8th grade graduation. What do you think about that? It gets better. My DH responds to her that they are not going because she is an unfit mother, blah blah blah. Well she answers back saying, I know this is *rollercoasterirder, so why don’t you stay out my problems and stop living off of your exhusband’s child support and my kid’s child support. Now mind you, she hasn’t sent a penny in 2 years, when she did she sent $296 a months for 3 kids at the time. She is a freaking job, so after my DH told me that she was talking stuff about me I sent her a text and let her have it. The funny part is that she kept calling me a user, I work, make a lot of money, only have one daughter, I help my DH take care of 3 of his boys, yet I’m the user. Please share the joke with me and laugh, she is an idiot. .

step off already's picture

Sounds like our BM who lives an hour away, works 5 hours a week, doesn't pay any child support and tells DH that he should put SS first in his life.

Oh, and BM moved out of their family home when SS was only 5 (after 2 years of cheating and not really living there anyway) and has been completely absent from SS's life for 7 years...

I think there are mental illnesses that come into play with some of these women

step off already's picture

I'm the one taking care of HER kid and she'll tell me, "go take care of your OWN kids". And i'm just thinking, UM, my kids are fine - YOURS is the one that needs taking care of because his mother is a crack pot!

rollercoasterirder's picture

This is what she tells, "keep in mind they are my kids" just worry about your daughter, Oh! And she says that the stories about her leaving her boys when the youngest was 6 months (still breastfeeding) are fictional! She is a deranged lunatic!

step off already's picture

LOL. Do we have the same BM?

Our BM has tried to say both in SS's counselling (to the counselor) and to the mediator, "I've never abandoned you for 7 years. I've been with you the entire time."

Each time DH will look at SS13 and say, "SS, tell the truth" and SS will say, "you did mom. you weren't there"

Or there was the time she tried to say that she lived with them at the home DH rented from his father for 5 years after he moved out of the family home. DH just does the same thing, "SS, did BM ever live with us here? Tell the truth. " and SS says, "no".

Oh and then there was BM's first over night visit with SS that she had last summer. SS13 came home "fully understanding" why BM had been gone for all of those years: DH was cheating with the neighbors and wouldn't let BM in the house. When in fact, BM had been cheating 2 years prior to leaving DH and SS, and DH stayed in the house another two years prior to moving closer to his family and throwing in the towel. At this point BM was now a lesbian and living with her best friend / girl friend / lover and in her mind, (per the court papers she filed) she was going back and forth between her girlfriend and DH for the 7 year separation.

BM is a drunk and a heavy pot smoker and probably sees reality VERY differently than DH does.

DH would allow BM to show up and spend time with SS. these visits would be quarterly, monthly, bi-yearly - whenever she was figthing with her lover. She'd show up drunk, make SS a bunch of promises, pass out and be on her way once she woke up.

Maybe in her mind, that was her "trying" to get back with DH and be a mom. DH is sickened by BM. I'd find unopened cards that she'd send to their house. Of course, I'd ask about them, open and read them, and they'd say, "maybe one day we'll be a family again" BARF!

rollercoasterirder's picture

Wow, I think your DH and My DH were sharing the same BM, but at least your husband's BM only had 1 child this whore had 3, she cheated on him not once but 4 times and he let her come back, but it's all a lie, my DH stole them from her. She was tricked. Yet, she does nothing to get them back. She says because they are not dogs, so she is not going to fight for them in court. She knows very well 1) She really doesn't want the kids 2) No judge is going to take them away from my DH. She's a loses all the way around, yet she clears everything every single time they go spend the summer with her. Shame on these crazy Bsss!

Auberry2's picture

Oh good grief. I didn't know our BM had three kids with your DH too. Everyhting is "You don't care about your son ever since you married HER" She is always trying to pry into our finances to see if we are wasting the grand (less the $200 per month) child support she pays from the minimum wage jobs she barely works at because she just knows it is going to get my hair and nails done. Meanwhile, that money is just enough to cover school lunches and a few things like that and I haven't seen the inside of the salon in months. BM's like this are such pieces of work. *smdh*