Is it worth it?
So, I hate my job. I make good money and am an exec at a profitable firm, but.. as I said I hate it. We could live off of FDH salary IF the following things happened:
He gives up all his equity in the house he had with the Ex. He still makes the mtg payment (stupid ass) and she refuses to sell it unless she gets 100% of the proceeds. All this is ok per the decree.
And we agreed to 50/50 custody which would alleviate child support.
So - it is worth it? Cons: His crazy ex would live in same town as us (she's about 40 minutes away now) and I would have 50% time with his kid. Disposable income would decrease and we would not get to travel as much 
Pros: I could get out of the rat race, (I have worked FT since the day I left college) I would be available to do stuff with my kids and could enjoy my life for once without having to rush around all the freaking time.
I know this may sound incredibly selfish but I was very sick for the past 2 years and worked full time through it all. I had to have 6 surgeries during that time and only took off for the recovery time. For one surgery, I worked the morning of the procedure and checked emails from the recovery room. I am simply worn out. I just dont know if the trade offs with the Princess and her crazy ass mother are worth it.
Thoughts?
I don't know how old your
I don't know how old your kids are, but this is how I feel: My kids are only kids for a precious short amount of time and I only have one time in my life where they are *children* and actually want to spend time with me.
So there's not much I wouldn't do to have the time with them. I see time flying by and I already have one kid who's pretty much grown up and it went by in a flash, it seems. She has her own life now. My other kid is halfway there and after that, childhood over. After that I will have plenty of time to work FT. So as long as we can afford for me to be home and not at work, this is what we will do. Yes I could work FT and we could have a nicer house and cars, real vacations (instead of camping and mini trips) but it's a sacrifice I think is worth it.
So I think the pro's outweigh the cons, but that's just based off my personal belief system.
Oh and especially since your health has taken a hit and you've been working FT since college. Do what your heart and gut tell you is right. If you are worn out then maybe this is what you should do. You'll just have to be on the same page as DH with boundaries with princess and BM. I bet you could find a way to make it work.
Don't give up your
Don't give up your independance. At the very least, try to keep a part time job.