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Shelly155's picture

Hello there, I've just signed up to this site after looking for some advice.
The story is sooooo long so will try to keep it brief.
I am 36 I have a partner who I have been with for nearly 6 years. He has 3 girls to his ex wife. Girls are 15, 18, 20.
It's been tough throughout the years the kids are very out spoken and come from a diff bac ground to me.
They don't have many manners and constantly along the way have caused problems. Call their dad all kinds of names and he still goes running to them.
So about 10 months ago one of the skids wanted to stay I kept saying no, I had started a new job was very tired and it wasn't great timing for me.
One night after work I went for a few drink with my new work colleagues.
I then received a phone call later on in the evening from my partner saying that she was screaming on the phone to him she had seen me kissing someone in a bar (I wasnt by the way) she was calling me all sorts of horrible things.
My partner and I ended up splitting up for a while over this, he didn't believe her in the end but the skids said if he ever came back they would dis own him.
He came back they didn't disown him. However at Christmas I couldn't go to his parents house with the skids because they want nothing to do with me.

So 10 months later I haven't seen or spoke to them, I am not alive to them. the 6 years I've been with him they have never bought him a birthday, Christmas or Father's Day card. So yesterday UK Father's Day he comes home with a card and a present off the skids. Which was a photo frame of the 4 of them on Christmas Day the day I wasn't allowed to go.!!! He's out it up in the house and I have said I don't want it up. He's actually threatened to leave me if I don't let him keep this picture up.... Why do I want to look at her face and the other 2 after the lies they have told about me??? He doesn't get it though??
Please please if anyone could give me advice I would appreciate it. Am I in the right or wrong for not wanting this photograph up???
Thank you xx

robin333's picture

Why torture yourself any longer? End it. Otherwise, you will become resentful of having your relationship with him on terms dictated by skids. No man, however great in bed, is worth that kind of regret.

Shelly155's picture

He's 41.
I know I should not put up with this but it's so hard ending a relationship after this many years o just wish I had the strength to do it.
I think that's what annoys me more than anything the picture was of Christmas when I couldn't go.
I did agree myself that they are his kids and he should see them Christmas Day so he took them his mums for an hour had dinner at my mums then we both went back to his mums later on.
Still doesn't make it ok though I know. He knows the kid was lying about me, he says himself last night it's just who they are.

I agree with you though I know it's him who's the parent and he can control all of this. He can't handle stress and conflict so this is how he reacts.
I was thinking maybe I did over react about the photo??? It's his kids at the end of the day and his home..
I just know the picture was given to annoy me which worked!