I hope we have a chance to talk about our lives, our families, our work, etc. Her daughter is doing great so we have nothing to deal with. Hopefully it will be a chance for us to have a different frame of reference for each other. We're cordial at school events etc but it's always busy and rushed. I hope today will take the edge off a little bit. The last time she saw me at a school event her face dropped and she got this disgusted, exasperated look on her face. I'm pretty sure that's how she feels every time she sees me and that's been going on for years!

My husband is very supportive and happy that i'm doing this. He told me he thinks I'm the bigger person for inviting her to coffee the way I did. I don't know about that, I think it's practical. It's not like we're going to be friends! The one thing he cautioned me not to bring up is the fact that she doesn't do her visit with her daughter every other week. We don't know why. She kept her visits for a while after the divorce according to their parenting plan and then they just faded away. She just got laid off and she has the time now. What kind of mom voluntarily gives up time with their kid? I think it's terrible to blow off time with her daughter like that but of course I won't say anything.