We texted a bit yesterday and that is what he told me.  He also accused me of wanting him to ignore his son.   I told him that he can be a doormat if he wants, but this girl won't have any part of it.  
Then he said he talked with his 16s about the BMs car parked there and s16 said that he wasn't given a choice in the car that was bought for him and BMs is much safer to drive.  Riiiight. 
I did tell him that I don't like s16 and he said he knew!  Lol.  I feel better.