alright, perhaps i am overreacting a little to call this stalking, but honestly, i feel like im being stalked by ss's bm. well, not me, us. she calls and asks where we are, what are we doing, what will we be doing later (that day, that week, this month) and it is not so that she can work out a visit with ss (she didnt want a visitation schedule), she just wants to know. in four months, she has seen ss once for ten minutes and talked to him once on the phone but she calls and acts like shes going to talk to him and then just asks personal questions until dh hangs up or gets her off the phone. now shes talking about moving from the city she lives in (an hour away) to an apartment complex literally a five minute drive from our house and i am freaking out. this is not what i signed up for. when dh and i started dating two years ago, she was not in the picture, with her kid or us. now that we are married and ss is living with us... she is a constant. i day dream about running away to Hawaii if the chick actually follows through with this.