Husbands ex wants me to keep her child while she thinks about her life
My husbands ex ( the mother of his 4 year old unruley daughter) wants me to keep her daughter for her so she can ' think about her life'. She wants me specifically to watch her because my husband works. But I have two children of my own to watch and I'm just now going back to college & trying to find a job and a sitter for my 2 kids. She expects me to watch her daughter because she ' has no one' which is a lie. I don't have anyone. My parents are older & un able to watch my kids and I have never been away from either of my children for more then a few hours. She expects me to just drop my life so I can watch her daughter and she can run around with her new boyfriend and probably smoke a bunch of pot. We usually get my husbands daughter every other weekend and this happened to be our weekend and today all of a sudden she dropped this on us. Basically she ordered me to watch her. She didn't ask. So now I can't do anything this week I needed to do. It wouldn't be as bad if my sd was actually good. She's 4 and she's terrible. She won't listen. She lies. All she does is ask the same question over and over again, she also very mean to my 3 year old daughter. If my daughter is asleep she will wake her up and keep her awake. So no one in this house will have any sleep this whole week. I don't know what to do. I can't watch this child it's not my responsibility. And my husband works crazy long hours and he can't just take off this short of notice he will get fired. So she's tied my hands? I am so stressed out I've cried all day. What do I do? Someone please help me. She won't take her kid back she refuses because she's got to think about stuff and she can't have her daughter running around screaming while she's thinking. ( her words not mine ). I have got to sign up for school by tomorrow & sign up my kids for daycare not to mention my daughter has dance class this week and I can't take my sd in there while all the other little girls are dancing and she just sits there thats just wrong. This week is just busy and she gave me no notice! I'm beginning to feel like I'm going to have a breakdown. Not to mention I was just diagnosed with cancer and have barely enough energy to do what I'm doin now.
what does your dh say about
what does your dh say about all this? you should have said no. but if the ex just isn't coming to pick sd up after a visit, call the police and tell them sd was abandoned. or let your dh figure out what to do, but do not keep sd.
He doesn't say anything... &
He doesn't say anything... & he cannot watch her, he has to work and I told my sd's mom that and that's when she put the responsibility on me.
I agree. This is some bs. She
I agree. This is some bs. She had that child and she needs to be a responsible adult. What's wrong with people?
The thing is I did tell her
The thing is I did tell her no... Several times and she just doesn't care.
Well if you have already told
Well if you have already told her no and she doesn't care then neither should you and the next time she brings the discussion up you need to let her know that you have moved on from that topic and so should she.
I did tell her no. And she
I did tell her no. And she won't take no for an answer. I told her I'd watch her Monday and that was it. After that I said she needed to get her Monday night or early Tuesday morning. She just said well you've got to watch her and she won't return anymore of my calls or texts.
She is playing with you
She is playing with you because you are allowing her too. Either my DH or the police would have her but not me especially after I said NO! She can't make you do a darn thing.
Yeah, take the kid and call
Yeah, take the kid and call CPS on her.
send her and your dh this
send her and your dh this text: "if sd is not picked up by______, i am taking her to the police department for abandonment". she doesn't need to reply to the texts, but i guarantee she's reading them. honey your going to have to grow a backbone cause they are walking all over you.
I'm going to do this. Thanks!
I'm going to do this. Thanks!
you are woman, hear you ROAR!
you are woman, hear you ROAR! i love it when we can convince a sweet lady who's caring and love allows other to take advantage of her. it's so not fair.