Hope in sight???What age do kids "age out' of the court system?
Ok here is my question..."Step demon" just turned 17 last week and has been living with BM for the last three years due to a big blow out between BD and I last winter. "Lacy" AKA Step demon was always a difficult child from the time she turned 11 ,lying ,stealing VERY DISRESPECTFUL but as she got older she got worse and turned into her mothers little spy and would run back to mommy and report every thing we did she did not like. Well one winter when she was 14 she decided to take our car and go for a drive and crash it. When the police found them they also found over 4oo hundred dollars she stole from your house. Long story short we wanted her punished and BM wanted everything covered up as Lacy has "emotional problems". Since BM would not back us in the punishment we told BM Lacy could not come back to our house till she agreed to follow our rules and paid for some of the damage to the car. Well who would know this would result in a HUGE court battle between the younger dauther "Karen". The court feels Lacy was only 14 at the time and should not be punished(big WTF in my eyes) and that BD is basally being a ass. Now Lacy step demon KNOWS she had it great ay our house so of course she wants to come back BUTshes not willing to make the first move she wants daddy to come crawling back begging. Then BM wants us to take her back also 50 percent of the time like we use to as she can't handle her she she's pushing the court to keep pressure on BD. God hope you guys have followed me so far! So finally here is my question! At what age does to court stop getting involved in family matters like this? I don't mean finically i know that goes till 21 but trying to push the father and dauther back together like in therapy and such? Hate me but i don't want that crazy psycho back in my house EVERY and I'm hoping once she turns 18 the court will no longer get involved
So what's the court fight
So what's the court fight about? Your DH's custody of "Karen" (the youngest child) or demanding Dad must take parenting time and therapy with "Lacy" (the oldest one who hasn't been in your home in three years) ?
I've never known a court to insist a non-custodial parent must have visitation with his/her child. However I could see a judge ruling on therapy for father and the youngest daughter if this child is still going back and forth and joint custody. A judge would basically be saying the estrangement between father and oldest is affecting the relationship between father and youngest child. In order to maintain custody of the youngest child it is deemed in youngest child's best interest that father receive therapy and along with the youngest child if the child is still being forced between homes. And I could also see a judge ordering the father to pay for counseling and therapy for the older child until that child ages out.
BM basically is trying to get the court
to say to BD you can't have one(younger BD) without the other(older step demon). BM is coming out with all the punches in court from guilt trip saying step demon NEEDS her father to saying letting just younger SD come over will hurt the sibling relationship. So yes the court SO FAR has not made BD give in BUT they have sided with BM and put the pressure on him pretty hard and made it pretty clear they think hes a dirtbag for not just letting the whole thing go and just giving her a big daddy hug(GAG). Um sorry judge how about you let the little psycho come live with you and steal your money and crash your car...HHHH don't think so. Both kids go to therapy already and BD splits the cost with BM. BM knows step demon will NEVER agree to our rules or pay back some of the money for the damage car and thats the agreement for her to come back into our home. This is why BM is fighting for us to just drop the whole thing.
In most states (although I
In most states (although I hear New York and a couple of other's are longer) at 18 visitation and custody and such is over. They are legal adults UNLESS they are special needs and then it can last forever.
True but our fear is the court will take away
or limit his time with his younger BD Karen who we want. Its already been mentioned a NUMBER of times in court what are you going to do if Karen the younger BD steals your car throw her away too??? We feel like saying it will never happen as Karen is not a spoiled rotten disrespectful brat like her older sister but of course can't. If it was not for younger Karen we could tell then all to go screw themselves and move out of state BUT because of Karen we have to tip toe around carefully and play the game without getting to sucked it. Hats why I was wondering how much longer we have to play like we care but be careful not to let our guild down so step demon thinks she can walk back in our home.
True but our fear is the court will take away
or limit his time with his younger BD Karen who we want. Its already been mentioned a NUMBER of times in court what are you going to do if Karen the younger BD steals your car throw her away too??? We feel like saying it will never happen as Karen is not a spoiled rotten disrespectful brat like her older sister but of course can't. If it was not for younger Karen we could tell then all to go screw themselves and move out of state BUT because of Karen we have to tip toe around carefully and play the game without getting to sucked it. Hats why I was wondering how much longer we have to play like we care but be careful not to let our guild down so step demon thinks she can walk back in our home.