I'm new to this site and it's my little secret. I need somewhere for advice and to vent from time to time and I think I found it. Please forgive me for any spelling or grammar errors I'm sort of in a hurry and need advice quick. Here goes. . .

A little background info. I'm BM to an 11 year old boy and SM to 11 year old girl. Hubby and I dated for 7 years and married a few months ago. BM got the divorce in absentia knowing full well where he was but everything has to be her way. So she got sole custody and visistation is all over the place. Basically we have his daughter every weekend and almost every holiday. I have even had her daughter on Mother's Day BM takes no time for her kid. If she's not with us she's with the neighbors (during the week).

Here's the problem this week. BM decided that she doesn't want to be bothered Thanksgiving week so she's sending SD11. Hubby was told to pick her up Friday after school and not bring her back until the Sunday night before school starts back. The kids get a week off for Thanksgiving and Hubby and I are only off Thurs and Friday. He thinks the kids should stay home alone Mon - Wed. We both have good jobs and plenty of time we can take off from work so I suggested we work the days off between the two of us. I am not comfortable leaving two 11 year olds home alone. Granted my son spends a couple of hours alone after school until we get home from work and his daughter is left home alone all the time at BM's house. In my opinion they need supervision. For the most part they get along but sometimes his daughter can be aloof and while she's an angel in front of him I've seen some disrespectful behavior from her that of course he doesn't believe. I know this is going to be a huge arguement because in his mind I'm saying his precious can not be left alone in our home when my son can. Please help. I need some advice and I have to get this conversation done with him fast. Let me know if I need to provide further details.

PS. I just yelled downstairs and asked him what days he decided to take off next week and he said he had not decided yet. UGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!