Hello help
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Idk how to handle a situation where my mother in law has been very involved with my 6 year old and now after 5 months checked out. I know it has to do w my teen step daughters ages 19 and 18 who demand my husband and I get a divorce or they refuse to come around. Been a solid of peace without the drama...i didn't think mother in law would go along with it but it's clear now she has...what do I saw now that my 5 year old id asking to see gramma who blocks me?
Offer to call gramma so she
Offer to call gramma so she can talk to her. Do it in front if both your daughter and your husband. Then let your husband try. If that doesn't work either "Oh dear, grammars phone seems to be broken." If either of you DOES manage to get through, make sure you both stay in the (close) vicinity during the call. Under no circumstances does the old bat get to take your daughter on her own. No 1-to-1 exposure. It's called damage control.
With a bit of luck, not seeing gramma for long stretches will gradually erase her importance to your daughter.
what do YOU do? Not a thing.
what do YOU do? Not a thing.. it is your HUSBAND's responsibility to deal with HIS mother.. to deal with HIS child's emotions about missing her.. about dealing with HIS adult children's tantrums.. you do nothing.
Say nothing. 5yos are very transient thinkers.
She will let it go in short order. Keep MIL at a distance.
Kids need no interface with people like this. Even when they are forced to by an idiot Harry Potter robed bottom 10%er of the legal profession slinging a wooden Fisher-Priced toddler's hammer for pushing two decades they can forget the toxic once they are not forced into the presence of the toxic.