I feel like I've been blowing up the boards with posts lately, but I can't help it! I find it nice to have a place where I don't have to worry about whose feelings will be hurt if I look at them. Thanks everyone for understanding!!

MIL floored me when she told me SD wasn’t very happy with her because she had a talk with her about how she treats me and DD. I about fell over! She said, "Madicakes, I had heard some things, but I didn’t really realize, or believe, how it was until I came out to visit. Now I see exactly what’s going on".

Of course SD went crying to her mom that GM was being mean. Her mom texted DH with “so, your mom is on Madicakes' and daughter’s side now?”.

I made sure to tell MIL just how much that meant to me. I’m sure it hurts her to see how her granddaughter, her only biological granddaughter, is acting.

She did go on to explain that she thinks SD acts out because when BM left DH they immediately moved in with BM’s boyfriend. Then, she has daddy all to herself for a couple years until DD and I show up. So, SD feels like she doesn’t have any place that is just hers. That’s all fine and dandy, and I can understand the logic.

I got thinking about it last night I feel like that's BS…it’s all in how SD handles it. There were many other children involved, on each side. They all handled it relatively well. She didn’t have it any worse than any of the other kids involved on both sides. BM’s DH has 2 daughters, both of whom had to give up their alone time with daddy because a new GF and daughter moved in. BM has problems with neither of these girls. DD went from being an only child to living with another kid, plus now has 2 step siblings at her dads house, and DH doesn’t have any problems with her, nor does her SM. The only constant is the fact that BOTH me and her SD have problems with her. I am, of course, not going to express my opinion regarding that…best just to leave it alone.