There seems to be a prevailing theme on this board that many of the DH, FDHs, SOs, etc. benefit significantly from the financial contributions of their partner. I wonder if this leads anyone to feeling used? If you don't feel used, do you sometimes wonder if your partner stays with you simply because they (and skids) wouldn't have the same lifestyle without you in their life?

I'm sensitive to this issue as a result of my own past (my ex specifically claimed he stayed with me the last few years only because he benefited financially). I've been told that I place too much value on money and financial security so I'm trying to be objective. I've also been told that I'm generous to a fault. I vascillate between paranoia and guilt for even entertaining the thoughts.

I am alone in this quandary?