ding-dong the bitch is gone!
his ex has left!!!! not before some major drama, but she is gone gone gone and now i can relax and plan my escape because after all of this shit the last 2 weeks, he now tells me, in tears, how he cares for her so much because thats his kids mother.....CRIES!!!!!!! so basically i realize now i am nothing to him and probably never was.
found out she had a warrant for her arrest for larceny. called in a tip, took cops 4 days to show up at my house to "investigate". bf--or soon to be former bf--lies and says she isnt here so the cop leaves and she takes off for the bus station by jumping my fence and walking. an hour later he decides to go find her and drive her.
my head is spinning still. after all this shit....he might as well have cried on her shoulder and told her he loved her, i think that i'd still feel just as heartbroken.
and sd is a hyper mess. so annoying. now i am sure that she will begin to wet the bed again and crawl into our bed at night while we are sleeping. oh well right? i mean i cant dealw ith this no more. until bm is dead and gone she wont ever go away and he wont stop helping her---and using sd as excuse. and sd will always look at her mom as better than me.
Now just hold on a minute honey!
WTF. !!! No wonder you are upset. At first, I was like, WHAT?? but then I thought, its not safe for ANYONE, even whacked out BMs, to be out alone at night, so just because he went to pick her up doesn't mean he only loves her and not you.
Its hard to watch someone you once cared about go downhill, and I have seen it too. Maybe that's what he meant?? What is happening now?
"It's funny how dogs and cats know the inside of folks better than other folks do, isn't it?"
- Eleanor H. Porter (1868 - 1920), 'Pollyanna', 1912
well, he and i......
...are going to have a talk once he returns home tonight. and after sd is in bed. he and i need to first decide what is going to happen to 'us' and then go from there. i may end up just ending it all. if that is the case we must decide what goes on with my bd who i ahd with him. she of course would primarily ebw ith me but i wont keep her from her daddy. if he ends up back witht he crazy bm, then i will pursue full custody with supervised visitations.
and he meant that he cares about her so much. it has nothing to do with her going downhill. she has been crazy her whole life. he cant let her go even after all the shit. and he uses sd as an excuse.
I am so sorry dear
Of course I don't know your whole situation but maybe there is still hope for you guys, with a child together? Maybe getting a good night's rest would put things in better perspective before you make any big decisions.
You have been under a lot of pressure so maybe just take the rest of the night off, at last!! Just say you are too tired tonight and get some rest.
Let us know what happens, k? Hugs to you ((((((((you)))))))). p.s. sounds like BM may get locked up anyway?!
"It's funny how dogs and cats know the inside of folks better than other folks do, isn't it?"
- Eleanor H. Porter (1868 - 1920), 'Pollyanna', 1912
SHE'S ALREADY GONE
and plans to return to fl to take care of her warrant, then move into her own place. i seriously doubt it. sd even said that. so idk but my problem with sd has been flaking off and now my main problem is him.
thank you for the hugs, i do need them. my bd is almost 3 and she is the sweetest, giving me extra hugs and kisses, telling me im a 'good girl" and stuff. its as if she knows i am hurting. we dont fight infront of her, but i know children sense tension and anxiety.
:(
I'm sorry that happened to you. However!! (becoming my favorite word! lol) I must always be the mean one (mostly cause to me it's funny sometimes). If I were to find out something like that and then my BF lied to the cops so she could sneak out the back...oye I would be yelling, or calling them or something to turn his azz in to for aideing and abedding (i can't spell). Especially if I felt that I never meant anything to him. Again, just me being evil
girly./...
I remember reading your original post on how she was staying with you and I was surprised you didn't walk out then.
Be sure to NOT give this loser another chance, he totally abused of your kindness. And then to share that he still cares about this woman!?!?!?!??!? that's just another slap in the face.
Love your title BTW
One can only hope!