In desperate need of help !
Hello, I am new to this site and have come because I have no idea what to do anymore. I am 28 and my boyfriend is 37. He has 3 daughters who he has full custody of and they have visitation with their mother twice a month . The mother does NOTHING for the kids and I do everything. The kids and I love each other very much. The mother is constantly disrespecting me to them telling them I am crazy psycho tells them lies to get them to hate me but even a 9 year old stands up for me. This is taking a huge toll on one of the kids who breaks down to me about how sad it makes her how her mother is pressuring her to say she wants to come live with her or they will never see their cousins again, she does to me telling her she pushes her to choose even tho they have been in his custody since kindergarten . The oldest is graduating high school and the mom does not want her so now that she just turned 18 she wants custody of the you get 2 and tells them that now that she is an adult she will leave. She cries to me that she is scared to let her mom find out that she is with me even tho we live together. I fully take care of them ... They come home in size 8 underwear when they are a size 14... She uses the one bribes her because she knows that she is emotional and a follower not a leader ... Part of me thinks I should leave because I can see how much damage their mother is doing to her because of me but I can't leave them I do so much for them that I'm terrified to leave. She poured hot sauce in her mouth and made her hold it because she was mad. ... I have no idea what to do and it's heartbreaking because I will do anything to protect them but I can't protect them from their mother. She's mentally effecting the. And there is nothing I can do. I want to take legal action but I don't even know what I could possibly do.
Where's their father in all
Where's their father in all this mess? In the sense of where does he stand? Does he stand up to their mom? I'm assuming he has your back and would do what is necessary in taking legal action, since you as a step parent only have so many rights. My advice to is document everything and make cps/dcf (whatever child protective services is called in your area) reports. I would think making a child hold hot sauce in their mouths as a form of punishment would fall under abuse, but I'm not sure. I'm not legally inclined so I really can't give you advice on what your options are. I know there are quite a few people here that are and it may be worth your time to repost this in the legal forum. Maybe you could get some good advice in regards to what you can do to get the kids out of this situation.
Thank you
Thank you
I agree, that she must be
I agree, that she must be pretty bad to not at least have legal custody. The BM in my situation emotional tortures her oldest and youngest because they say they love me. She called SD7 a traitor last weekend for telling me she loved me.
My fiance took her to court trying to get 50/50 custody, but she lies and was able to have the motion denied. However we did win the motion to get them all into counseling. Then BM lied to the counselor telling her that they were there because of my fiance's abuse and also on her villiation alone. He had to go there with the court order. She still claims that she wanted the counseling even though she fought us not to go.
I wish you all the luck in the world. Sounds like those children need you desperately. I think you SO should go to CPS and take the children there, get her visitation to be supervised.