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Dear BM, Long Hair & Ringworm Doesn't Mix

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Submitted by Writermom95 on Fri, 09/13/2013 - 11:13pm

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My SS5 has a big knot in his head with crusty pus embedded in his hair. Looks like ringworm to me. He has really long hair which the BM refuses to cut. Often his hair is in disarray and smells. I made it clear from the beginning I would NOT comb a little boy's hair. A girl yes and maybe, boy NO--never!

I think it's absolutely ridiculous that he has hair that is that long (it's down his back) and she doesn't take care of it and now he has ringworm. She has in the mediation CO that my DH can NOT cut his hair. This was a control tactic because she knew that her pre-marriage games were coming to an end once my husband and I got married. Don't know why the judge let that crap fly but here we are now... Long hair and ringworm. And this is not the first time he's had ringworm and this doesn't seem to phase BM at all.

I'm baffled as to why she won't cut his hair esp. if he keeps getting ringworm and she's not taking care of all that hair. I think she thinks that it's cute. Well, not my BS so I keep my mouth shut and watch the stupidity unfold. This is a powder keg about to blow!

My DH is so pissed is threatening to cut BS hair in spite of the CO. I'm secretly hoping he does. }:) It would be worth it to get her damn blood boiling over something that should have never been an issue in the first place.

I would like to put something on it to at least alleviate the itching and soreness for SS but BM has dismissed and disrespected my kindness and caring for her BS and I refused to do much more than love and treat SS with kindness when he's with us. I don't do much extra because it's never been appreciated or acknowledged EVER. I've learned from this site, disengagement is the way to go!!! No contact with her and only what I feel like doing to extend myself as far as SS is concerned.

I feel bad for the little guy but I truly can't help that he has a stupid BM.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Sat, 09/14/2013 - 8:52am

Are you sure he has ringworms?

Those things spread like crazy. If you get them in you hair, it will start to fall out. If he has ringworms, he should have bald spots all over his head.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Sat, 09/14/2013 - 8:55am

*****

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Submitted by jumanji on Sat, 09/14/2013 - 9:18am

Does Dad ALSO have a CO that he can't take the kid to a doctor and get meds for it? There are oral meds for ringworm. Or is he just lazy, and it's easier to leave it to you to get worked up over?

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Submitted by jumanji on Sat, 09/14/2013 - 11:54am

>Long hair on a boy is socially awkward.

Really? I see a lot of young boys with long hair. Who seem to have no problems.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Mon, 03/31/2014 - 2:19pm

I was taught from my high school teacher:

"It's easier to seek forgiveness, than permission"

Cut his hair and treat the child! And when the judge asks you why you tell him he had ringworms in his head and the mother wasn't doing her job as a parent to help the child get rid of it and keep himself from getting it again.

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Submitted by AllySkoo on Mon, 04/21/2014 - 11:46am

Yeah, I'm wondering what Dad is doing about this too? Dad should be calling the pediatrician. (Also, while the CO may say that DAD can't cut his hair, I'm pretty sure it doesn't say the doctor's office can't do it! If it's medically necessary then it needs to be done.) For that matter, *recurring* ringworm should be probably warrant a visit to a pediatric dermatologist, although that's a question for the pediatrician.

If one of you DOES comb/brush his hair (and your DH should be doing that!!) then remember to sanitize or throw out the comb afterwards. Ringworm (as you probably know) is a fungus that's pretty contagious. The last thing you guys need is to get it yourselves, or to reinfect SS the next time you comb his hair!

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Submitted by MamaFox on Tue, 09/02/2014 - 2:31pm

Ugh.

I'm disgusted by all the adults in this situation. Ring Worm?! MORE THAN ONCE?! I will be honestly surprised if you take all this to court and you aren't ALL charged with child neglect. Frankly, you would all deserve it.

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Submitted by StepLady on Wed, 09/03/2014 - 12:11am

Ring worm is a fungus. It is the same as jock itch or athletes foot, just different names different parts of the body. It can be very painful, it can leave scars. It will spread all over him if not treated. It is contagious. I have had it several times when I was a kid. Take him to the DR! It is not fun! Have the DR cut his hair if need be and let her bitch about that. I know someone that has dad can not cut hair in their co too. Because that father is an sob who cuts the hair himself, does a terrible job and screams at the kids to shut while he cuts it. Sometimes boys having long hair is cultural. My two older ss both had long hair in their early childhoods. They like it short now for sports. Google Tinactin it is for jock itch and otc, its cheap and it may give him some relief, read it up on it. I am NOT a DR lol, so any advice I am giving is for entertainment purposes only lol!