BM lied on fafsa
DH and I found out that BM filled out the FAFSA for SD17 with untruthful info.
There was no communication with my DH, the custodial parent. (We had no idea she was filling it out.) I also don’t think she included her husband’s info as required. (My SD was guided by her mother for her answers and told to say she had no stepparents.) I’ve chosen to disengage due to the alienation and constant disparaging BM has done with regards to me and the SKs often act like I don’t exist so I’ve began to disengage. I’d have no problem ignoring this if it weren’t for one personal issue. They aren’t my lies nor my DHs. It will produce more aide for the student, which in turn benefits my DH since BM expects him to give money towards tuition and co-sign loans (she says she can’t cosign bc her credit is too poor - which could be true as it’s her long history).
Here is where I have a problem staying silent: she used my bio child’s name (DH and I are her parents) as a dependent. She has no attachment to my daughter, no communication, nothing; other than calling her a brat, etc and blaming my young child for her kids’ issues.
She violated a boundary by using her name as a dependent in her manipulation. To look at the form, she’s painting a false picture of a single parent (her) living at my address that includes my daughter. Knowing she falsely claimed my child as her dependent feels like she’s in my personal space and I don’t even communicate with her due to her long history of manipulation. (Smartest decision I’ve made.) I haven’t seen the entire form, but I’m assuming she put our address as hers since her address is nowhere near the school district where the student attends. She manipulated the form wherever she could (no surprise as she’s always been deceitful whenever it benefits her.)
It’s been submitted. Do we insist that she update it (SD could probably update it, but it would generate a notice anyway) to remove my child - which may in turn flag it for further scrutiny (possibly jeopardizing the aide the student could receive) or let it go and give warning if she ever pulls that stunt again, we will call and report her? (Also, we filled out SS20’s FAFSA truthfully his HS senior year and his mom filled it out thereafter bc he moved with her for his college freshman year. It’s possible my child’s name has been used before but I’m guessing not, since she didn’t even know my child’s correct given name until she asked one of the SKs recently.) Both kids would already be getting more aide due to 2 in college and her income lower than my DH’s income, but she greedily tried to manipulate anything she could to increase it further. Using my child’s name was the proverbial stick. (Btw, she’s my only child & will never have the same benefit of a sibling in college at the same time. SKs willl be finished by the time she graduates from HS. Good news is she’s wicked smart with a strong work ethic so could obtain scholarships & receive financial aid honestly.)