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Bedtime is a nightmare and just got worse!!

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Submitted by Blendingnotworking on Thu, 07/04/2019 - 11:47pm

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Bedtime has always been an issue. Here 7 years old SD does not have a tv in her room and has a bedtime. Well tonight is a holiday so of course she got to stay up until 11:00 pm. Then when we go to pot her to bed she said my momma said you have to left me call her when I want regardless or time. So she calls so her mom can come get her o my to drop her off at 5 in the morning on her way to work. We do not have work this week and no after getting her up and bringing her in the morning SD will be wide awake. This is not fair. I feel like the rule should be if you come you either stay all not at all. She doesn’t like it here cause we have rules about tv and phones. Am I being unfair? 

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Submitted by Kes on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 12:33am

A 7 yr old should not be allowed to make such decisions - this would never happen in my home. 

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Submitted by Cbarton12 on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 12:36am

This is awful. 11 is way too late for a child that age regardless of it being a holiday.

And child should not be dictating when she can call her mom. Like at 11 at night really? I wouldn't call my own mother at that time unless it was an emergency.

And for her to be dictating when she leaves? 

This can only get worse.

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Submitted by Harry on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 6:41am

He should of told her to go to sleep.  No calling her mother at 11 pm for no good reason.  This is only going to get worst. Allowing a7 yo to run the home is bad..  but this is on DH not SD

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Submitted by I'm out on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 7:41am

I must say I read that wondering if your oh actually allowed this to happen? He agreed to her being picked up and being dropped off again at 5 am? 

If that's the case I'm sorry but what are you doing? 

I feel like I'm always telling people on here to leave their situations and I really don't mean to haha. But seriously if you're not being considered and everything is revolving around a 7 year old any woman/man is worth more than that and deserves better. 

Obviously I don't know if that is your situation from just reading this one post but if it is please realise you're worth better than this.

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Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 8:18am

I'm blown away by anyone allowing a 7-year-old to dictate their lives.  I don't get it.

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Submitted by STaround on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 8:25am

For a 7 YO to stay up that late, absent VERY unusal situation (home destroyed by quake, yes).

Everywhere I know fireworks are over by 9, 9:30 at the latest.  Go home and bed from there.   Changing a bedtime that much does not work for kids (and not for all adutls either!!)

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 9:33am

How awful for you to have a 7 year old running sh!t in your home. She gets put to bed when you and H say so. She makes phone calls to her mother at a reasonable time. Her mother doesn't run a damn thing in your home so whatever she says is irrelevant. Your H allowing this to happen is setting the tone for it to continue. Shut this down NOW or expect more of the same in the future.

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Submitted by Thisisnotus on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 10:33am

agreed! Shut it down NOW. It is still going on in my house after 3 mother effing years...SD is now 11 and she and DH have almost no relationship b/c when she was 9 BM guilt tripped her for staying at our house b/c "daddy left us and I"m lonely"....so she never ever spends the night b/c she "doesn't want to". I feel bad for DH, but it's his fault for allowing this crap to continue and for letting a child call the shots. I am also releived b/c the less I have to deal with her (because she comes with a side of BM who can't leave her alone) the better.

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Submitted by flmomma08 on Fri, 07/05/2019 - 12:48pm

I don't see a problem with her being up late on 4th of July.. my 3 year old was up until that same time.. fireworks here didn't start until 9:30-9:45 so it was after 10:30 when we got home. But any other night bedtime is around 8:30. Anyway, 11 is way too late to be calling anyone unless it is an emergency. I am usually sleeping at that time and would have a panic attack if my phone rang at that hour. I would think someone was in the hospital or dead. Her father should have just told her no it's too late, you can talk tomorrow. You have to put an end to this now or its only going to get worse as she gets older, and you have a long ways to go before she is out of the house.

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Submitted by Rags on Tue, 07/09/2019 - 12:43pm

Nope, mama does not get to dictate that the toxic spawn can call her from your home any time she wants.  

This kid needs to learn the word NO, BM needs to learn her place and daddy needs to put a hand between his legs and grab a big fist full of man sack in dealing with both his spawn and his womb donor.

smh