Background: I met my wife in high school, she was the half sis of a good friend of mine. We dated for 2 years and she cheated because she thought her favorite cousin and I had sex. Which I did afterwards for revenge...how high school is that? So 5-6 years later we saw each other at a mutual friends party and we talked for almost the whole party and blah blah blah. Within those years she managed to have my now SD6 and SS5. And I managed to have 2 miscarriages and a stillborn with a long time gf of mine, so no bio kids for me. Fast forward and we've been marriage for 8 months and we're in our mid twenties.

I've known her family before I even knew her so you would think I would have a general idea of how they operate, but I didn't at all. Her family is ignorant, lazy and entitled. She has an older sister who always needs to borrow anything from a skillet to our car. Its all been a sudden change from when we dated for a year before getting married. Her mother is always popping up...(call first) I'm not gonna argue with an old lady about respecting my house, so I put that on my wife. Her kids are entitled and whiney (which all started like a week after we got married) I've never been around kids that are so needy (lately) We try to read to them and their "bored" Play a board game: "bored" If I say, "hey turn off the tv for a while and go play outside" they say their bored outside. All they want to do is sit in from of a screen and play a game or watch youtube. She's has raised them to be needy and dependent on other people. I started punishing them for not saying thank you and they whine and cry. I tell them that's not being a big girl or big boy....whine some more lol. I get it, their not used to discipline.

On the other hand, my wife is GREAT, she supports my opinions in raising them and utilizes them. I believe since she's all they've had, she's been coddling them for way too long before I got there. Instead of punishments, she would just say, "no don't do that." with no punishment.

We agreed that we wouldn't have kids until we are in our thirties and more financially stable. Suddenly, she wants a baby NOW. Saying that she doesn't want her kids to be so far in age and its like starting all over again with the kids. We've had long, detailed talks about this...why the sudden change. She even downloaded a fertility app. I call it the "TrapApp." I feel she senses I'm getting tired so now she wants a baby to keep me around. I'm starting to think that my marriage was a mistake. But I feel bad because most of the reasons why I want to leave has nothing to do with her. Shes great and supports me. I lost my job and was out of work for most of our relationship before marriage and she NEVER SAID ONE THING ABOUT ME NOT WORKING and how I need to find a job or ANYTHING. That's extremely rare and I know she generally loves me for me, but her family and kids are extremely irritating. She's the family member that "has her stuff together" she people always "need" something. LOL they even migrate to our home on holidays...no one invited you. "Oh its Easter, so lets go to their house because you know she cooked."

I find myself working more hours so I don't have to interact with the kids as much. I think it'll get better with a hard reconditioning technique, but am I willing to stay around and put up with it. I'm a young guy with a career, no kids. Sometimes I think, why the hell are you dealing with all the baggage that comes with her? ionevenknow...