Am I Crazy...
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So my DH family has dinner every Sunday. BM is invited my DH parents to the Sunday dinner. They say it's so they can see their grand kids but I don't buy it as we bring the kids to their house every time we have them. I told my DH that I wasn't going today because I was sick of her being invited. We can pick the kids up and bring them if they want to see the kids. I'm not going to spend my only day off at dinner with your ex. He went without me saying he wanted to see his kids and I was being ridiculous. I'm I being out of line or is this crazy??
It is crazy!!! No reason to
It is crazy!!! No reason to spend free time with the ex. I feel no contact is necessary except about the children. During child related activities it is necessary to possibly be at the same place but aside from that no way.
I think it should be your
I think it should be your choice and your DH needs to respect that choice. You're not preventing him from going. I get so tired of these DH's expecting us to always suck it up when we are grown women and can decide for ourselves who we choose to spend time with. Our feelings need to count.
Thanks, It is my decision and
Thanks, It is my decision and I chose to not spend it with his crazy family who has no respect for my feelings and DH. I know he doesn't like seeing her either but it feels like he chooses her over me.
I can see the grandparents
I can see the grandparents inviting the grandchildren over on the Sunday's that is not your weekend to have the kids (besides the weekends where you do have them on Sunday)...but to invite BM along every Sunday?
I'm actually surprised BM attends along with the kids. While there is nothing wrong in BM letting the grandparents have the children on her Sunday afternoons, I'd think BM would have other dining plans for herself. Having Sunday dinners each and every Sunday as one big still married family? Weird.
Your husband should tell his
Your husband should tell his parents that having the BM there makes BOTH of you uncomfortable and the TWO of you will not attend.
You have the right to come and go as you please, they have the right to be miffed (BM won't I'll bet) and you'll have the right to not give a s....
I tend to agree with you and
I tend to agree with you and I would have put up with it soo long and then that would have been it.
His ex has no business being there and being all chatty with his mom in the first place, grandkids or not.
I would feel like a third wheel and what sucks would be that YOU'RE his wife while she shares the dinner table and probably yaps on about the kids...and ohhh, of course your hubby will have to chime in because they're his kids too.
No way in hell would I walk into that, nor sit through it.
Thanks for all the support,
Thanks for all the support, they have been divorced for 3 years. She is even getting remarried to another guy and brings him along to dinners. We had a huge fight when he got home. I'll never go to another Sunday dinner and I am contemplating whether this marriage is working if he cant respect my feelings when I've repeatably said it. She is so mean to her kids that when she is around the kids won't even play with their cousins. You can tell the skids are uncomfortable and so is everyone else including me... His excuse was that he wanted to visit with his kids since he only sees them every other weekend and on Wednesdays. Not my problem man... Over it...
That is a piss poor pathetic
That is a piss poor pathetic excuse - he see's them every other weekend and Wednesdays, so what's his grief? Is he still secretly in love with his ex and this is why he didn't give a flying fart about your feelings?
Better to hurt the current than the ex? The man is a moron. I'd seriously consider moving on if he keeps up with this shit.
I agree with everyone. They
I agree with everyone. They seriously expect you to sit there and have sunday dinner with her, her ex husband (now your husband) and THEIR kids???!!! It is WACKO. I would never go but I would hope DH would not tolerate this kind of b.s from his parents. It is just ridiculous.
As for BM, she shouldn't be going!!!!!!!!!!
We no longer speak to DHs
We no longer speak to DHs family over this. Divorced for 19 years now , bipolar, manipulative,borderline BM and SD21 is the same. Of course they hated BM with a passion when they were married. BM remarried twice and divorced since then and is now engaged to a real wimp that BM and SD push around.
It totally ruined my 2 DDs relationship with DHs parents and all the cousins and aunts and uncles. BM and SD love this. It still hurts at times but there is no way me or DH would go and
sit at a family function with them. DHs family says we are immature. Whatever. They have seen the drama and bullshit she has put us through and were supposed to want to break bread? If they could walk a mile in my shoes...
Its a shame your DH cant see that this is wrong and disrespectful to you. Im sure BM gets a thrill when he shows up without you though. You two need to be united. Dont let him go without you. He needs
to find his balls and tell his family that this is wrong and disrespectful to you and DH.
Ummmmm no, you are not crazy,
Ummmmm no, you are not crazy, your husband and his family and ex are crazy. You are completely sane, and they are off their *&%#$(*& rockers.
Weekly "family" get
Weekly "family" get together...yeah.....NO!!!! I call that is bullshit and unreasonable.