Ice cream kisses
As much as I enjoyed my trip there is nothing better than sweet, sticky ice cream kisses to make me feel better. I loved getting pampered and spoiled, the food was out of this world. I went dancing every night, saw several shows, had a massage just about every day. I went snorkeling in the bluest water I've ever seen. But nothing compares to cuddling and playing with my little grandbabies. That gave me the most happiness and comfort. I talked with my son and he has given so much support. It was a difficult decision but I talked with my lawyer and my H and when I get home this weekend H is going to commit himself to the VA for psych evaluation. My lawyer is having all the paperwork drawn up to give me power of attorney for H. I hated to force him into this but it was that or a divorce. Of course it didn't hurt that his VA doctor was in total agreement with me. I told him that he had backed me into a corner with his behavior and someone was going to be hurt and I wasn't going to let it be me anymore. I really wish it could be different be it's the only way to get him into treatment. Sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest and the most painful.
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FM-honey, I know it's hard. But it's definately a move in the
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
right direction. It's admireable of you to give him the option of treatment, rather than just divorcing him and letting him sink alone.
I'd commit myself right now if I could. I feel like a powder keg about to explode.
I need the job I interviewed so badly, so I can get H out of my life.
But now I'll have two disabled parents next door. How in the world are we going to get thru this? My dad has a hard enough time walking on his own. There is no way he can support Mom, and her with a broken hip on one side, broken ankle on the other.
I just don't know. The future looks pretty gloomy.
Ferret
I am so glad that you enjoyed your trip and are having a blast with the grandbabies. It is great news to hear that you have your sons support and that DH is seeking treatment. I agree with Bewitched it is admirable that you are giving him an opportunity to lay things straight and get the help he deserves. It was not healthy for you to remain in the toxic environment and maybe this cruise was a turning point in your marriage. I wish you well, but if EVER you feel like you are drowning under the weight of things. Remember to put on your own life vest FIRST. We as women who are natural caretakers are like captains of a ship. Oftentimes we will hang on and go down with the vessel. Just know that if you reach a point where you are there because you want DH to get help, but you no longer want to be in the relationship. It is okay to seek your own happiness. In the meantime, I wish you well and I hope that the hospital proves to be a saving grace for both your DH and you. See! You NEEDED that cruise to prepare you for what lies ahead.
Just because one opens her legs twice, does not a mother make! ~ ME ~ }:-P
You absolutely did the right thing.
Life is too short to try to tackle something like this alone,
FM. So glad the VA counselor agreed with you and you have
the ball rolling.
Keep taking care of FM in the meantime. You have an AWESOME life outside of this man, and it will certainly continue!!
Hugs!!
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt
good to see you back
I'm glad you enjoyed your trip, but it's sad that you have to come back to deal with this situation. And I really had no idea that H was in need of a psych eval. I must not be seeing the writing on the wall clearly enough.
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