Freakin Snot!!!!
I just need to vent here in my little haven on line since snapping his snots neck isn't a legal option!! I am so sick of her manipulative game playing and freakin drama that I could just scream!! She makes me want to freakin puke!
I have been busting my butt around here getting things in order at home in preparation for our up coming international move from Germany back to the states. Today, I spent all day gutting rooms and throwing stuff out and to try to get things ready for the movers ect..Our washing machine broke today..Our son was diagnosed with Autism last week..Our son and step snot were both home sick today (though she didn't even have a freakin fever daddy let her stay home). My son is very sick I have been fighting a high fever with him all day on top of all the other stuff I was trying to get done today. To say I am overwhelmed and a bit stressed out over the past week would be an understatement..
I asked DH to pick up BK for dinner tonight because I didn't want to cook with everything I was trying to get done and I was just plain tired..So, we sit down at the table for dinner...And the freakin "drama" begins...Dh's turns to snot and says, "you might as well talk to her now." (eye roll all I wanted to do was eat in freakin peace and rest for a few minutes).
DH proceeds to tell me that him and Step Snot had a "talk" last night and she has some "feelings" that he told her to share with me. What it all boiled down to was that she wanted new clothes...Again..She had gone to him and laid on the water works about how kids tease her at school about her clothes. There is nothing wrong with this snots clothes buy the way. She is just turning into a "trend whore" and wants to work daddy for more new clothes. When he suggested she come to me and talk about it she then proceeded to whine about how I "mistreat" her...
She didn't come to me about new clothes because she knew I would say "no"...I am sick of taking this ingratful snot and clothing snob out to buy clothing..When I take her out to try stuff on I always ask her if she likes it or not and only if she says "yes" do I buy it. She then turns around a few weeks later and says she doesn't have any clothes. I point out that I just bought her clothes and she says she doesn't like them and only said she did because I told her not to be "picky" or comes up with another excuse and reason that it's "my fault"...
The real deal is that she likes the clothes I buy her. I can tell by how she reacts when I buy them. Then the minute a kid at school says something to her or she gets "in" with a new crowd then she wants to dress like them and won't wear the clothes I bought her that she liked a few weeks ago!
For instance my mom sent her a really nice pair of jeans. They are really cool and have a cool butter fly design and ribbon lace up at the ankles. She got them from my mom for her birthday in Oct and she LOVED THEM...Now she won't wear them because the "rockers" at school teased her about them...
Latley she has been mentioning that she wants "skinny jeans"..This is all bubble butt so that last thing she needs is "skinny jeans"...Two weeks ago I pointed out to her that I just bought her jeans..Lo and behold, suddenly, all her knew jeans have holes in the knees..My suspiciouns are that she putt the holes in her jeans herself thinking that I would have to buy her knew clothes then..
She whines and cries at the table about how mistreated she is and how all her friends at school get to go to the salon and get their hair done and how their parents by them "things they want". This brat just got about 300 dollars in Japense stuff for her room for xmas!! She didn't NEED them she wanted them! Poor Step Snot!!
She gets snotty with me at the table, of course, in front of her dad which is the only time she disrespects me. So to make the long story short her dad ends up yelling at me and then turns around and tells her that she should be snotty...I told him that I am not going to drop a hundred dollars on his snot for clothes every time some kid at school teases her!
The end result??? I go upstaires to my room and the brat has it cart blanche down staires..Frankly, I think she should have gotten in trouble and been corrected for getting snotty and being disrespectful...But she didn't..Then I come down staires about an hour later and she is trying to talk to me and act like nothing happened. I just glared at her until she got out of my space...
Now the snot is supposed to be grounded from the TV for her grades. yet the inauguration is on and she is sitting down staires listening to the whole thing while staring away from the TV. In my book grounded from TV means that you have no business being in the room the TV is in! So I just turned to DH and said You might as well save the bull shit and just let her watch it..So, he did...
Grrrrrrrr....I am so mad right now that I could just spit nails!!
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Wow, what a bunch
of poo! That's crap. If you are getting ready to move back here, why in the world would anyone flippin care about what she is wearing anyway? There will be a whole different crowd of people here, so who cares if she wants new clothes!
Thank you.
Thank you! I think preparing for an international move and dealing with my son's recent diagnosis of Autism is a bit more "pressing" then step snot wanting new clothes because someone teased her at school..
they both make me sick!
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
I would point out to dh that
I would point out to dh that snots choice in clothes will change w/the move, and its not going to happen.. and why would he have her address you in front of everyone and not one on one.. ya know.. w/o an audience to play up to.
Why should she be constantly getting new things? How old is she? If she is of legal working age, tell her to get a job and then she can buy what her heart desires w/her own money. Does she have a savings from bday and Christmas money?? Same thing... use your own money, because then she will be more selective.
I would also point out to dh that he is in the MILITARY and as such, not made of money, and that this family is going to live w/in their means. I would be royally ticked if I was blindsided at dinner.
She could go down to the Commissary and work as a bagger for tips. I know at our commissary the teens can work as baggers for tips, or get paid and be a cashier. They also hold jobs at the movie theater...
HRH Step Snot
Princess Step Snot the Trend Whore is 12.. At 12 I had a paper route, Baby Sat, mowed lawns ect to earn money for the extra things and clothing I wanted..My BD is 17 and has earned money for herself since she was 12 and has worked at Burger King since she was 16..Neither of my BD's ever expected everything to be handed to them...I buy them the basics and if they want extras they buy them themselves.
Personally, I'd like to hunt down her BM in whatever drug rehab, rescue mission, or car she is currently living in and dump Step Snot off on the BM's car grill...i think it would do Step Snot a world of good to spend a little time under her "mommies" care and see where she came from!! She thinks the evil step mom so "mistreats" her...The snot would be living in a van down by the river if it wasn't for me!
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
Timing
Was not good on their part for a discussion (if you can call it that)!
DH might have to do the clothes shopping with her if Princess Poopsie Snot is so unhappy!
Sounds like she is going to have to get over herself-some kids don't get any choices re clothes maybe some volunteer work in a soup kitchen would bring her down to earth!
Why on earth was he yelling at you-if that was my daughter you do not want to know what I would do! :O
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
Maybe she will bump into her BM...
I agree..Perhaps a soup kitchen in our home town where she can serve her transient, drug addict, homeless looser of a BM a nice bowl of soup!! She thinks she has it so bad...I can't help but wonder what her two sisters (one older and one younger from BM) would say listening to Step Snot carry on about how bad she has it with Evil Step Mom...Those poor things were not DH's biological kids so they got stuck with the BM..That is until the state took them away from her for "gross neglect".
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
Sd plays
The old "Pity Party" game-one of many tactics Skids use to divide and conquer:
We get:
Passive Aggression
Playing Dumb
Learned Helplessness
Pity Party
These tactics seem to work on BP's -
SD is VERY fortunate to have escaped a life with her BM!
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!
Yep,
Yep the Step Snot uses all of those tactics..ANd they all make me sick. Her BM is an absolute mess and she is very lucky...She's a spoiled brat for sure.
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
make her
Make her work for her clothes if she wants new ones extra chores also for the ones she put holes in i would be pissed.Or tell her to go pick some money off the money tree in the back yard and then she can go shopping.Or bring her to a second hand store to buy clothes make her appreciate what she has that task has obviously been left up to you.
7.99 specials
Well since the pants have the "miracle holes" she will have to have new pants...I just couldn't "neglect" Princess Step Snot or having the school concerned about her running around with holes in her pants.. Unfortunatley, they don't have second hand stores here in Rural Bavaria Germany. If they did, you can bet I would be taking her to St. Vincents or Salvation Army and giving her a 20 dollar limit! LOL..
However, they do have pants at the local PX. Much to her dismay I will be sashaying past the Tommy Hilficker and Britany Spears section on my way to the $7.99 specials that Trend Whore stopped wearing about a year ago because they way the bottoms were "tappered" was uncool and kids were teasing her. I'm sure the miraculous "holes" won't show up again! THE BRAT!!!
I can't wait to see the look on the snots face when she pulls five pairs of those out of the bag!! I will have to make sure to have the video camera and digital camera charged up to catch that glorious moment for my viewing pleasure!! I will hide in my bathroom and watch that video repeatedly and cackle like a crazy person! LOL...
That snots days of me taking her for a girl day out to all the cool clothing stores in Germany are OVER!
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
I told him exactly that
I told him exactly that tonight! I was so irate that she can be rude and snotty and he says that she is "just expressing her feelings"...Well, the way I was raised is that children should speak respectfully to adults, especially their parents, if they would like to keep their lips on their face! She would not dare behave like that towards me if her dad was deployed!!
I already told him that I won't keep her for another deployment..He said that he doesn't have anyone else to take care of her..I told him that sounds like a personal problem and perhaps he and she should have treated me with a bit more appreciation!!
As it stands right now..I have already decided that Step Snot needs to go to her room and stay there until Daddykins comes home..Then I will go to my room..That way I don't have to look at her, listen to her, talk to her, or be in her annoying presence..
When we get back to the states I will be making a game plan, saving money ect to get myself and my kids out of this hell hole of a marriage..I just hate her...If I never saw her face or heard her annoying voice again it would be too soon!
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
I forgot to add
Thank you for validating my feelings...I did feel "backed into a corner"...I felt totally "set up" by DH's approach to this and for blind siding me at dinner like that!! I told him that HE should have come to me last night and discussed what he and Step Snot talked about so he and I could discuss it...You know like partners should..Rather then how he handeled it..
The guys an idiot..Plain and simple..
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
Move to the States! ........ New Trends, the answer is NO. IMHO.
I would say no new clothes until the move to the States is complete. She will have a whole new crew of friends and new trends to to comply with.
When I was growing up internationally we would get a single clothes shopping trip per years since there were not many places to buy clothes in the middle of the Middle Eastern deserts in the late 60's through the early 80's.
Princes Snot Bucket needs a dose of clarity and reality on the clothes issue IMHO.
Best regards,
Clarity
Our kids get all knew clothes at the beginning of the school year and at xmas time. Of course, I will buy clothes in between if things are on sale and such. Thats when I got new clothes and I think all new clothes every six months or so is reasonable.
What really fries me is that the girls back in the states would die to see some of the German fashion that Step Snot has hanging in her closet. They have really really nice clothes over here...Alot nicer than in the states...
Poor Step Snot...I think DH and Princess Snot Bucket both need a dose of clarity..
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
I cant believe at 12 she is
I cant believe at 12 she is acting like this.. From her fashion demands, I guess I thought she was 14 or 15.
See.. I would make her wear those pants w/the holes in the knees.. only there would be a big ugly patch where the holes are.. and THAT is what she would be wearing. My sd used to do this when she was 8.. I said, to bad so sad, we are NOT going out to get her clothes. She can look homeless. On special occassions (like Christmas) we get them an outfit for the day anyway, and I would make sure to get those back after the special occassion and take really good care of them, so that they had presentable clothes if we were going anywhere that I thought required a less homeless look.
Sorry to hear that snot princess is going to end up ruining your marriage. Guess DH will be SOL when you leave and he has no one to watch her.
Yep 12 going on 20
Yep 12 and acting like this..She also thinks she should be able to get her hair died, wear make up, get a cell phone, and her belly button pierced. Ummmm..okay...like thats gonna happen!
I know alot of people get their kids cell phones. For me personally, I don't think a 12 year old needs a cell phone.. I didn't get my first cell phone until I was 33...
My 17 year old just got a cell phone..She has a job and bought a paid for it herself. Step Snot just wants a cell phone because her friends have them and she thinks it will make her "cool" and "popular"..I'm not buying a 12 year old a cell phone as a fashion accessory..Sheesh..
At the rate this snot is going she is going to be knocked up by the time she if 14...
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
My SS got a cell at 14. As a convenience for us not for him.
We got sick of waiting for him to get out of practice or come out of the mall with his friends, etc.... so we got him a phone so he could call us when practice let out or we could call him to tell him to get his bahookie outside and in the car.
No kid needs a cell unless Mom and Dad decide the kid needs the phone. Or if they pay for it and the cell bill themselves.
IMHO.
Best regards,
I know alot of people
I know alot of people whos kids have cell phones...In some respects it would be a convience if Step Snot ever went anywhere..She goes to school and comes home and that's about it because she is always grounded due to her grades..
She is also one of those kids that doesn't take care of things..She would have a cell phone broken, stolen, or lost with in a week..If she was responsible with her belongings it would be different... Now that older BD is 17, working, and has other things she does that cell phone comes in handy for sure..
If there was a valid reason for Step Snot to need a cell phone then it would be different...She just wants one to show off at school and try to look "trendy"..
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
Oh, goodness.
What is with these kids thinking that they NEED materialist things? I can understand what it's like to feel like an outcast because the "in" crowd had perfect hair and perfect clothes and perfect everything... and I was stuck with plain old jeans and a shirt. And I admit that there were times where I wanted to have what the "in" crowd had but I knew my parents were stern. I learned at a young age that begging would NOT get me anywhere. Throwing a fit would NOT get me anywhere. Being disrespectful would NOT get me anywhere. So pretty much I was left with to appreciate what I had on my back.
I don't understand these men who feel they must spoil their children rotten. Do they not see that in the long run, it will be hurting the kids? These kids will have a rude awakening when they step out into the real world and realize that not everything is handed to them on a gold plate. But honestly? I've given up on caring about the outcome of SD8. I used to be worried of her own well being... but I have done everything in my power to make these changes in her life. DH and BM obviously want to raise a monster who will not function properly in society. I cease to care.
Well, Disgusted... I think we should ship our SDs to Africa and let them see that they have it so much better than a lot of children in this world. Maybe then they'll be more appreciative and respectful.
... Or maybe they'll get attacked by lions.
What? Who said that?
LOL...
LOl....I would fell sorry for the lion !!!
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted
SW19
you are hilarious, although visualizing SD getting eaten by a lion and the lion burps out a cell phone.. RICH...
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