I have a few minutes now to sit down with a cup of tea and write out a bit of my story

I have had 5 years of hell. Not even counting all the bits in between, I have had the BM assault me in front of her crying kids, threaten me, turn my DH's family against me (his sister still won't talk to me), try manipulate the kids, manipulate DH, threatened to take his kids away from him if he didn't leave me, on and on.

It was a nightmare. Even recently, she spent nearly a year trying to break us up because a psychic told her she was going to get back together with 'an ex' and she thought it must be him, so she tried to break us up and told everyone that they were going to get back together. Very nearly did it too, we nearly divorced and there were at least 3 times that I did leave, even if only briefly.

Then when he eventually cottoned on what was happening and told her he wasn't interested, she looked up an ex-boyfriend and he told her to get lost, so she got desperate and looked up another old friend on the internet and within 2 weeks they were involved and 'in love'. It wasn't long after that that I realised what I was doing to my life because of her, and I switched off. It made the world of difference, it made her give up also, lol.

Now after all the fighting 'over the kids' and all her power struggles, and all her drama, she left her kids for this man who is a convicted paedophile and they now live with us full time.

It took a VERY long time for us to get past everything. She caused so many problems and even now we still have to untangle something that we find out she said or did. I used to lie awake at night and cry, I hated my DH at times, I hated him for not standing up to her, for always giving in to her, letting her into our lives as much as he did, etc. It really was touch and go for a while.

When I eventually had my wake-up moment it was like a light switching on. I guess I could say I literally changed our lives overnight. Even now sometimes it can be hard, but it gets easier every day. I love my honey, he is so wonderful, I can't believe we very nearly lost everything because of BM and all this mess.

I did what I suppose lots of us do when we find the answer and it works - I wrote a book about it - and now I can't stop. I'm writing 4 more and even as I write, the light switches on for me more and more. I can't believe I wasted so much time stressing myself into such a frenzy because of her, I was so low that I was put on double dose anti-depressants, and my doctor told my DH she was very worried about my stress levels.

They're gone now. Seriously, BM can't ever touch me again. I just laugh now.

Anyway, that's my story, well, some of it, lol! I have been reading here for ages but it took me soooo long to get past the captcha thing on the registration page, otherwise I would have posted ages ago. I feel sad reading some posts, like Chava and Cruella, sometimes it makes my blood boil.

My next book will be on the nightmare stepkids and the parents who feed them. Lol, not burgers, but feed their behaviour. I will stay on here now that I finally have got on!!! and will let you know when it's done

xx

Trouble with a psychotic ex-wife? http://www.fairystepmonster.com

LOL!! I want to belong to a Guild! Yay!

Thanks, I do feel very welcome here. After reading for a while, I feel like I know know some of you so well already!

It's an amazing moment, when you have that 'click' ... I'm glad I"m not the only one who has had it.

xx

I have started out with an e-book, the first of five in a series, and you can buy it online at http://www.fairystepmonster.com

I'm building up to the big 'Second Wife Bible', which I hope will be on bookshelves. Kinda feels somehow satisfying to have a new career off the back of someone that nearly drove me to jump off a cliff