Currently, my fiance and I are dealing with his ex-wife and the mess that she is making reguarding the children. They are 9 and 10. When they see us on every other weekend, they talk about mom and her boyfriend and life with them. For example: Leaving them home alone, making them make their own meals, mom and boyfriend smoking in the house, living with animals that urinate and deficate on carpet that is left there for days, burning garbage in the fireplace, letting kittens, rabbits and dogs die ie. left outside to freeze and not feeding them. This continues, but it would take me all day to type it. These children beg us not to take them back to their mother but right now, the way that the divorce papers were done we have to, until we have proof of what she is doing. Every time we have them it is like someone is ripping our hearts out. These children deserve much better and with the way the divorce went through, we would have to spend a large amount of money we don't have to get the divorce looked at and modified. By that time, who knows what will happen with the kids. What do we do?????