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Submitted by overit22 on Thu, 10/18/2007 - 7:32pm

Seems like now my fiance is putting more obvious priority on me since his son is acting up.
This is probably going to start even more attitude. I am thinking he is not a regular teen... he never goes outside, has no friends really except some chat IM people who in reality could be anyone... and he doesn't act like a normal boy his age.
Even his father thinks that... maybe he just has a weird personality? Gay?? Misunderstood?

I grew up without a father and when I see how my fiance is with his son I want him to be a dad again. Problem: I don't trust his jealous,spoiled- manipulative son. I would be afraid to leave my child in his/her own room for fear that crazy would take vengeance.
I have a plan... by the time he's sixteen I'll have a baby and then just a couple more years of him living with us... I want him to be as old as possible before I give birth but the problem is that I'm getting older too!
Whatever.

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Submitted by fizzyfuzzy on Thu, 10/18/2007 - 8:52pm

who is 14 sounds a bit like yours. He claims to have no friends, spends most of his time on the computer, doesn't go outside unless we force him too and just expects everything to be handed to him w/o doing anything for it. He's a know-it-all and a smart ass and he drives me UP THE WALL! Smile I'm really glad we just got pregnant with our first together b/c SS will be 15 in a few months and only a few more years of him living with us, so my son won't pick up on the bad attitude. He's rude to his sister and younger brother and I have NO plans of leaving him alone with my son, I dont' plan on leaving any of my Skids with my son b/c of their manipulative behaviors. So I feel ya on this one.
DH has tried to get him involved in stuff, we try to involve him in family things and he never wants to participate. He has an interest in web design which is part of what DH does for a living so they've started to connect on that, but everytime DH tries to tell him how to do something SS14 always says "I know but...." Drives me CRAZY!! Anyway, I feel ya!
Dawn

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Submitted by tynkertoyz on Fri, 10/19/2007 - 7:05am

I think almost everyone with teenage boys in this day and age have similar complaints about them being too withdrawn, having too much attitude and being addicted to technology ...It comes with the generation, the privileges that they see as 'rights' and our permissiveness as parents in general.
When sharing with my teen the fact that we just didn't have those things growing up and learned to spend our time more productively without computers, he replied that it's just the way that teenagers 'hang out' these days, rather than going out in person, doing God-only-knows-what, with God-only-knows-who, they simply communicate via the internet. While I have issues with the amount of time wasted, I can appreciate the fact that I know where he is and can always give a quick peek over his shoulder to see what he's up to, as well as unplug his router connection from my computer if he's just up to no good...
I'm open for suggestions, however, to break his addiction without causing WW3...

I am a kind of paranoiac in reverse. I suspect people of plotting to make me happy.
J. D. Salinger