In a way I feel sorry for her. It's hard to feel sorry for someone who is so vindictive and nasty, especially when they have done all of this to themself and the only person that doesn't understand that is them. BM's boss at work sounds like she's given up on her and is just waiting on a good enough excuse to fire her. BM is frequently told that if she doesn't do this or that, she'll lose her job. I've never heard her say this about her job before. She's also doing very bad in school. She's only taking two classes this semester, and out of 14 class meetings she's only been to 4. She's not turning in her assignments and her professors are trying to talk her into dropping the classes because they say "Maybe this semester isn't the best time for you to be in college." She always uses SS's and her own health as an excuse but neither of them have ever been sick that I've seen in the past long time. I personally think it's because she doesn't have the money to buy the gas to get her to school because her accounts are constantly overdrawn.

The sad thing is that I can see how easy it would be to get her life back on track. If she would just go to work instead of using FMLA to take off all the time, and if she would just keep her word and do what she's told to do instead of trying to make up excuses to sit on her butt at home and do nothing, she might make enough money to pay her bills. Then she could afford to drive to school, and if she would stop making excuses for that, she would be able to attend class the two days a week that she goes and maybe even graduate which she was supposed to do last year but had to take incompletes in all of her courses because of this very thing. She's so consumed by feeling like a victim and having to play mommy dearest to a "special needs" child that that is all she does, SS says. She sits on the couch and watches TV or movies while playing on her laptop. She never talks to anyone unless it's to call and yell at BF or call her ONE friend and complain about me and BF. She doesn't clean, she doesn't get out, she doesn't do anything fun with SS. I just can't imagine a life so empty.

On to the good news about visitation. BF told her when he dropped SS off 2.5 days before he was supposed to that if he didn't get the days to make up for what she tricked him out of before Fall Break was over, come Monday he would be filing papers to take her back to court for contempt and if she didn't believe it she could try him. He told her he was sick of her crap and she wasn't going to be able to throw her temper tantrums and get her way anymore. Apparently what he said to BM got through to her, or she called enough important people who told her he was right and that she couldn't get around it. She emailed BF yesterday and said, "I can either drop SS off Thursday night on my way to class, or you can pick him up Friday as previously arranged. Let me know what you want to do." He told her that she could drop SS off Thursday and that would make up for the time that she stole from him a month ago when he had to get the deputy to go out there and he didn't get SS until the next day.

I'm so proud of BF!