Hi y'all - I'm new here, first post and all that but I have been reading through for days already before posting! Nice to know I am not alone but I do need to vent I suppose or quiz you all and see what others say....

Legally, financially, will I ever feel safe from this heifer???? Little background: My BF of 12 yrs left BM 13+ yrs ago when the kids informed him she was cheating. The world already knew this one was crazy - that was no secret and he never hid that from me but I decided to stick with him because a more patient man you will never find and his calming presence in my life is priceless. The divorce was miserable and ridiculous to the point where she told the judge she was pregnant (she wasn't) just to drag it out. Seriously. Crazy. So when I met him I was warned (by him) of these things. I supposed I effed up by having hope she would eventually move on.

Due to her own crazy antics the whole herd was cut off from contact - it broke BFs heart for a while more than he let on BUT he couldn't take it anymore. One can only get to know the local police department so well before it gets old seeing them EOWE. For example pitching a 5yr old over our patio fence and allowing him to unload items from the apartment while we were gone via busting a sliding glass door and then unlocking and walking out the front door because that is safe and adult right? - Houston cops caught them in the act and wouldn't press charges and just gave me the run around about letting it go for the kids sake when a neighbor called them and me to come home....I do so love HPD...NOT!! Or how about the day she showed up screaming that I had kidnapped them after they had been home for about an hour for a scheduled per CO visitation with their dad which she let them leave with HIM NOT ME I was no where around....and then here she comes with the police in tow stating that I had kidnapped them. Thankfully I was at work but still...that was fun....NOT!!! Or the screaming messages on the answerng machine where you can hear them crying in the background as she informs them their dad doesn't love them anymore he loves his new whore (that would be me) and they were 5 and 7 at the time....Yup....cray cray mucho. Well after several months of that BF cut them alllll off. His own family did not want the children at their homes because she showed up to a family birthday party causing trouble, the nursing home his mother was in, etc...The cutting off was not just us, was not my idea, but WAS the best thing for the situation to allow some normalcy. CS has been paid but no more contact was made because honestly neither one of us could afford to deal with lawyers/police/etc.

Well....the time has come...she is getting scared I guess. atfer a few quiet years shes baaaaackkkkkkk. Oh Joy. Youngest one has 1 year and a few months until he is 18 AND graduates highschool and her gravy train is rolling to a stop and I know it pisses her off to see almost $1800/month go away cause then HOW will she EVER pay for her 4100 sq ft house????? Perhaps be forced to get a job??? That would be a shame. This dumb heifer bought a $300,000 house last year even though the one she had was almost paid for...new camaro in the driveway....I'm sure she has/had plans to keep the money rolling in. Her LATEST scheme is trying to prove my handful of livestock is a BIG FANCY RANCH! Seriously! Back in court again as she tries to raise the CS after YEARS of peace and quiet. UGH It's a handful of goats and chickens I keep because they amuse me! It's MY hobby not an actual business. The only thing she isn't after is the damn garden veggies! We RENT this property from a FRIEND - we do NOT have a John Deere tractor, we BARELY have a running riding lawn mower! And here we go again....court...they haven't subpeonaed MY records yet but I seriously feel it coming as all these things were brought up on 2/8 because according to her he has had a substantial change in income. REALLY??? No, no he has not. I bought a couple goats a while back because I wanted a couple freaking goats! Ho-Lee Jee-Bus I think she'd snatch my used tampon straight out my vag if I told her BF paid for it just to prove how greedy she is! Rescheduled from 2/8 to 4/26 because BM failed to bring any proof this is HIS farm....cause it's not...it's a rental with my goats and chickens hanging out burning hay.

This is nothing new per se - I just thought we had established that his CS keeps him fairly broke and I'm nothing special besides being content living simple. But no, here we go again. She was beyond obnoxious for the first year he and I were together - we moved just enough to shake her off THEN she found husband #2 for herself and stayed busy for a while THEN I guess they got tired of each other and years 5-6 were obnoxious again and NOW after nearly 6 years OF QUIET here we go again UGH!!! SERIOUSLY?!?!?!?! Every chance she has ever had she has screamed loudly to the hevens that they are HER kids - not his AND hers, not theirs, JUST HERS. As BF has said "Fine....they can be all yours...let me know how that works out". She got what she wanted and now she wants MY pet chickens? What a joke! The amount of ugly, selfish, crazy and greedy this bitch exudes from her very pores of her skin just oozing all over the IV-D courts amazes me - telling other BMs how to swing things - it was a sad ugly day indeed.

Rant over (for now lol) but point being: WILL I EVER FEEL FINANCIALLY AND LEGALLY SAFE??? After reading some of the posts here I just don't know.....we aren't married, I suppose finances co-mingle a bit if you want to get super technical so now that worries me, and have I mentioned this bitch is CRAZY???? For the first time EVER in my life I have been working towards buying a house instead of renting (cleaning up a few baddies on my credit, building credit, etc) - my goal was in a year once the youngest was 18 and NOT to have BF on the mortgage either. Just waiting that long because it would make me feel better - she did try to sue him once after my grandfather passed away stating he had inherited all these magic beans from MY grandpa! (Used that substantial change in income thing to get back in court - crafty bitch) Um no....I didn't even get any magic beans, I actually had to SPEND magic beans to go to a funeral 1700 miles away and all I got was a dinner with my family. But there we were being served and in court and I had to prove there was nothing from MY family going to BF. What.The.Actual.F***???? Yup...waste of time and effort but worth it to see her face when that judge had the sense to tell her to piss off! I digress though....once again point being if I get something she wants it. If BF gets something she wants it. If she THINKS we have a pot to piss in, then it MUST be HER pot. Just a whif of happiness is enough to get her counting dollar signs and dollars there be none. He SHOULD have had his CS reassesed after a job loss 3 years ago but we let it go to keep the peace
- she actually stands to LOOSE money now by pushing forward and I dread the reaction that will trickle down towards our household. If she thinks it's hers then it must be and off to court we go. So is there ever a point where legally and financially you feel safe? Or is the rest of life a whirlwind of laying low, staying unseen, and praying she doesn't hear you have so much as even a candy bar she can grab from you when you are dealing with one this touched? I heard her LOUDLY proclaiming to another BM that 'his kids were going to sue him as soon as they turned 18' - for what I don't know I missed all that, but the threat has been made and all I can do is wonder what next????

I'm younger than him by 15 years....at 36 I realize I am not too old to start over. And for the first time EVER I am seriously contemplating it. Do you ever reach a point where you feel safe or is the court crap unending? Are they always suing for something? Does it never end??? Because I am 15 years younger than her too...is my only hope I will outlive her? If so....IDK....I just don't know if I can wait that long....and I feel selfish and rotten and evil for admitting it but I really don't know if I can do this once every 5 years until one of us dies. Or every time she catches a wild hair to google up my name.

Thanks for listening if nothing else....someone toss a fellow Texan some hope because today I could seriously cry. Do the greedy psycho ones ever grow old enough to give up???