His ex stepdaughter hates me
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:O we have been together for 3 yrs. I get along fine most of the time with his son(who is 11) and his eldest daughter who is 29(she is like my own child). His ex stepdaughter is pure malice with evil intent...
She was living with us from 8 mo. Pregnant (november of last year til july of this year). She is a slob and never puts the new baby down or lets anyone hold her. He was with her mother from about 1 yr(he married her mom when she was about6). We got along great for about the first yr and then she just flipped!
Throughout the year she was
Throughout the year she was horrible to his 11 yr old son( her brother/they share a mom). She was also horrible to my kids. She is 23 and i feel the behavior is unescuseable!
With as unstable as she has
With as unstable as she has proven herslef to be, i just dont want to deal with her or her child. I just want to stay away. She is toxic!
She has since moved in to her
She has since moved in to her own place. He told her she needed to go since she eoukd not respect me or the kids. However, she doesnt work and she shows up at 10 or 11 at night to grab more of her (stuff). After working a 12 hr shift her attitude and snarkiness is beyond exhausting. Just so frustrating....
Pack up her things and drop
Pack up her things and drop them all on her porch, then there will be no reason for her to ever darken your doorway again.
The basemwnt has a separate
The basemwnt has a separate apartment and that is where they were staying. I think he thought there we would not have to deal with each other. We however still ended up having to cross paths due to her never finishing her laundry and when she was in the kitchen.i know his heat was in the right place. She was 8 moths pregnant and the apartment she was moving to fell through last minute and her lease had already been given up for 9 am the next day. I love him for having such a good heart, but enough is enough
Still???? Do you or your DH
Still???? Do you or your DH have access to the area? I would pack up her things and have DH help you move them to her; it can seem a nice gesture and she will be out of your hair. I will go any length to get my SD out of my hair; wouldn't bother me to pack her up and even clean the nasty place she lived in, if it were near where I had to exist.
Ask your DH to get it moved and cleaned up.
She is a grown woman and has moved out; set boundaries from here and stick to them. Don't let yourself be used from here on.
I will pointbout though the
I will pointbout though the bad behavior to her brother was only when i was around and not when his dad could clearly see
I literally hide in another
I literally hide in another room if she comes over, just to not deal with her snarky comments and hateful looks.if looks could kill i would be dead many times over.in july it all came to a head
I literally hide in another
I literally hide in another room if she comes over, just to not deal with her snarky comments and hateful looks.if looks could kill i would be dead many times over.in july it all came to a head
She always left her laundry
She always left her laundry in the washer and dryer. I would move it to hangers on the rack above since she was so picky about what she wanted in the dryer. Finally she came to me and screamed at ke would u plz not f...ing touch my s...?
I finally lost ot and said if
I finally lost ot and said if u would just finish your laundry, i wouldnt have to. She then while holding her 2 mknth old put her hands on me and pushed me. I got mad but walked to another room to take care of housework where she then blocked me when i moved on to another room.the kids(his and mine) sawa amd heard everything she speeed at me. She screamed u just hate me because im kr...ies kid! This was right in front of her 11 yr old brother who started crying because of what she said. I consoled him and he was ok but he had heard her say that and ots his big sister... u know?
I guarantee if she put her
I guarantee if she put her hands on me (one time), I would call the cops and call family services to come get that baby. She sounds like an angry person.
She has been gone since july
She has been gone since july and shill had left stuff there. She finally showed up at 10pm the other night to grab some(not all) of her stuff. I hid in the other room and folded laundry and put it away. As soon as i got done and came out she gives me the i wish u were dead look and says nothing. I dont like being made uncomfelortsble in my own home, but he doesnt even seem to notice. I dont understand and dont know what to do. I think she is very mentally unstable. If i say anything then ill be the bad guy and if i dont then im a doormat... any ideas?
Why is your husband allowing
Why is your husband allowing this behavior? Your husband needs to grow a set. Immediately.
She's physically attacking you WHILE holding her infant? You should have called the police.
I'm not sure why even coming to your home is an option to her at this point. Its obvious she doesn't respect you, nor will her father make her.
Thats your home, you need to act like it.
That is what is told him the
That is what is told him the other night after she left at 11 pm... i think he feels he is abandoning her since she is not close to her bio mom or dad. Ihe asked me what i wanted him to do and i told him i want him to tell her if she is going to come into our home then zhe will treat me with respect or stay out. I think he is also hopin that he will be able to maintain a relationship with her daughter, but that is impossible. She wont even let the babys father hold her. I think she is ver mentally unstable!
Why is your husband allowing
Why is your husband allowing this behavior? Your husband needs to grow a set. Immediately.
She's physically attacking you WHILE holding her infant? You should have called the police.
I'm not sure why even coming to your home is an option to her at this point. Its obvious she doesn't respect you, nor will her father make her.
Thats your home, you need to act like it.
I was afraid the baby would
I was afraid the baby would get hurt she was acting so unstable.... she is a mess
GET BUSY AND MOVE HER OUT!
GET BUSY AND MOVE HER OUT! If you need protection and your DH won't do it, call Law Enforcement to stand by, while you move her stuff. Have it packed and ready to go and then get someone to help you move it, while Law Enforcement stand by for what they refer to as "Keep The Peace". It is free and you sound like you are afraid of her. Get protection and get her moved!
It's hard enough dealing with
It's hard enough dealing with your own step kids let alone his step kids. I get it he may have helped raise her but this one is Not your monkey
Thats what i said, but felt
Thats what i said, but felt awful after. Even his eldest daughter who eas raised with her makes excuses for her. I dont feel i should have to deal with her. If they so choose then fin but not me. I dont like the uncomfortableness she brings into our home with her. She acts like a completely different person with him. Its extremely frustrating!
Now if i can get him to see
Now if i can get him to see past her angelic face.... she is truly a wolf in sheeps clothing...
He is putting his marriage at
He is putting his marriage at risk for a child he lived with for a year? That makes no sense. Either there is something else going on or he is just a ball less wonder. If she is physically attacking you, then you need to call the police. You can't make him see anything, obviously. He is allowing someone to abuse his wife.
Dont know who is but its not
Dont know who is but its not me. She doesnt work so my guess woukd be her gma or gpa. She has this sense of entitlement that wont quit.... sad...
I know her moms mother bought
I know her moms mother bought her the house theyr living in so i assume she is paying expenses. She tried to talk my dh in to cosigning a loan for a house for them amd he said no...
He raised her from the age of
He raised her from the age of 1 year.. i understand that she is like his own child, but she is just awful to everyone but him. She is now 23
I'm so sorry! I read it as
I'm so sorry! I read it as he had only been with her mother about a year. I apologize. I was way off base.
U just misunderstood.
U just misunderstood. Nonoffense taken here. Ty for clarifying
I am just fed up with her
I am just fed up with her showing uo at all hours.....
Ty but i tried that. She then
Ty but i tried that. She then just shows uo when darn good and ready....
I really just wanted some
I really just wanted some outside opinions of what to request of him. Ty everyone...
Ty but i tried that. She then
Ty but i tried that. She then just shows uo when darn good and ready....
She put her hands on you!
She put her hands on you! Get a restraining order; she cannot come to your house. You have to take action to stop all this, nobody is going to do it for you.
Good Luck.
I did it, I know it can be accomplished.
If your DH wants to retain a
If your DH wants to retain a relationship with her it should be 100% outside of your home. This is his skid not yours.
my 2 cents: Ignore her and
my 2 cents:
Ignore her and tell her you are 23 not 3, you have 60 days to find your own place, and to stop sponging off us, we are not your blood family.
Then her laundry in the washer and drier when you need it.... dump it on the floor and use the washer, drier, not your problem if she has to do laundry again.
PAck her stuff up and inform her either she collects or it goes to welfare, change the locks.... stop hiding in your room when she comes over, be in her face and make her feel uncomfortable, I swear I will play the card... behave bitch you ar enot even blood family, so get out..
Why exactly do you tolerate
Why exactly do you tolerate her toxic presence in your marital home? Boot her ass out. She is an adult and not even anyone's actual spawn and gets less consideration than an actual spawn IMHO. If she earns consideration with respectful behavior and appreciation then fine but she doesn't so boot her ass out and good riddance.
This should apply to toxic adult bio-spawn too IMHO.