I guess I just need to get this off my chest. I am trying so hard to hold my tongue at home, but I'm afraid that I'm about to open my mouth and exactly what I'm thinking is going to come flying out.

SD22 is getting married in October. DH is giving her $5K for the ceremony and her mother is purchasing the wedding gown. Neither DH or BM are rolling in money, and they are both very well aware that this is not a big budget for a wedding, but even this amount is stressful to their budgets. They have given SD full reign over how the money will be spent, and $2500 of the $5K that hubby has allocated has already been spent on the venue alone.

Meanwhile, SD has visions of a wedding that will make Prince William and Kate Middleton's look shabby. She's sending out 200 invitations, plans a huge reception with a catered dinner or buffet, wants a giant tiered cake, a candy bar, and of course she wants the best photographer in the area. She hasn't even priced any of this yet. I'm sure that trying to achieve a balance between what she wants and what she can afford is stressful, especially, since she's already spent half the budget on the venue.

So, last night BM calls DH. She's crying because Bridezilla is being mean to her, and wants DH to call his daughter and straighten her out. DH does a little probing with BM and finds out the truth (as much as he can discern because BM and SD are both big fat liars) is that SD wanted to go dress shopping today, and BM is still in the process of saving money for the beloved frock and can't spend that kind of money at this moment. SD has told BM that she doesn't want her at the wedding and refuses to speak to her because she can't get what she wants when she wants it RIGHT NOW! DH calls SD and tells her, "You can't speak to your mother that way. She's doing the best she can. So what if you can't get the dress right now? You've still got 10 months to work that out." Now, I can hear her screaming over the phone from across the room. "You don't care about me. All you care about is yourself and that DEMON you're married to. If it had been up to you and mother, I would've never had anything. (UHHH...this child has never wanted for much of anything.) I wish you were standing in front of me right now so I could BEAT YOUR ASS!" She hung up on him, but called right back to rant some more. DH finally told her she was acting like a child and that she was 22 going on 12. Then, he hung up on her and didn't answer the phone when she called back.

I think that both DH and BM have just been asking for trouble by allowing her free reign of the wedding budget. She's extremely financially irresponsible and it usually winds up costing DH in the long run. I know that they both want their child to have her fairy tale wedding, but neither one of them are willing to acknowledge that she is only interested in a wedding and really has no desire to be in a committed marriage with this poor kid that she is marrying. This is going to be a very short lived marriage as far as I can tell. I'll honestly be surprised if they even make it to the wedding day.

Thanks so much for being a listening ear. I feel better already.