Am I just being crusty?
I feel like this child is extremely spoiled.. But having no children of my own or really knowing anyone else with kids maybe I'm just clueless.... Is this excessive or pretty standard?
We have SD6 almost 50/50.
She got here at 6 PM last night. Played with her friends, got money for lemonade and Popsicle. Went to dads baseball game got a Gatorade. Game was over at 10 and then she got onion rings. Went to bed at 1030. Got up Saturday and demanded that we go out for breakfast, grabbed a Popsicle on her way out the door. She chose McDonald's so she could get a toy and play in play place. After breakfast asked if we could go to the store to get her a fake phone, store didn't have fake phone so she chose a different toy. Asked for gum got gum also.
Her father and I both had to work this afternoon so she went to Papas for a couple hours. Had two chocolate Popsicles, 2 iced teas and some gummies. Came home had dinner. Then we went to a movie in the park where she got ice cream, pop, popcorn, cotton candy, juice. Asked if we could go to different store tomorrow for fake phone, dad said yes. Went to bed at 11.
I feel agitated because she's been really rude, sassy, and mean for the last six months and I believe it's because she's spoiled. However dad believes she's just being a kid. Thoughts?
He's not a healthy eater
He's not a healthy eater himself. And he assumes that when SD is at her mom she's not allowed to eat crap so he piles it on when she's here. In the past I've tried to go against it. After dinner she will ask for dessert, usually ice cream and one time I said "how about some fruit? You haven't had fruit all weekend". To which dad replied "you can have ice cream with some fruit".
Or one time we were at the mall.. She was selling girl guide cookies so dad and I had lunch at the food court. I said we should grab her a sub to eat after cause she hasn't had lunch yet. He said the line was too long, let's just get her a yogen fruz.... I said "is ice cream really necessary?" And he got snappy and said "if my kid wants ice cream she can have ice cream".
So I stopped attempting to intervene with the eating. If dad doesn't make the effort I certainly can't
She can also have, like echo
She can also have, like echo said, diabeetus.
Yup she just woke up crying
Yup she just woke up crying with a sugar hangover
Yes, she's spoiled. No, this
Yes, she's spoiled.
No, this isn't just being a kid.
And know that it doesn't stop. Before long it won't be a fake phone it will be a real phone and an Ipad and a car.
You know it!
You know it!
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She got the iPad when she was
She got the iPad when she was 5
She got the iPad when she was
She got the iPad when she was 5
Well firstly, whatever
Well firstly, whatever happens at Papas house doesn't really count because that's what grandparents are for (to spoil) so you can't hold those against her. The rest is not her fault either (she can't drive herself or grocery shop for herself). You're dating a Disney Dad. And like the others said, it's only going to get worse. Right now it's Popsicles and toy phones in a few years it's going to be iPhones and beach vacations. Disney Parents like your DH go through what's happening to my SS's mom right now where they go so long without telling their kid "no" that when the parents reach their budget and can no longer afford their wants the kid goes into culture shock and freaks out. Of course the parents think it's the kid acting out or being "spoiled" but really your DH is setting her up to expect everything to be a "yes." In the real world "yes's" are one in ten. He's not doing her any favors. Get him introduced to the Disney Parent concept, educate him on its negative side effects for his child and if he doesn't want to hear what you have to say and change then leave.
I don't blame her at all. I
I don't blame her at all. I know it's because he lets her walk all over him. He's already asking her where she wants to go on vacation next year.
Does this kid weigh 5000
Does this kid weigh 5000 pounds? If not she will. With that caloric intake it is only a matter of time. And yes. She is spoiled. Your SO and all of the other adults in this kid's life are idiots. Whatever you do ... do not pollute your own gene pool by breeding with this moron. Even good and intelligent parenting from one parent cannot always overcome the dark shallow and polluted side of a kid's gene pool. The best predictor of future performance is past behavior. Don't risk it. Good luck and take care of yourself.