He's gonna cave...I know it!
Last night after picking SheSloth up from school, DH comes in the house all frustrated. He tells SheSloth to put her stuff up and then come talk to him. At this point, I'm thinking she did something stupid again! Okay...I'm hoping she did something stupid again!
DH proceeds to tell me while waiting for SheSloth to come back out, that SheSloth wants to go hang out with friends on Saturday at a shopping center in the next town over. There will be no parents around. About this time, SheSloth comes back into the room to talk about it. DH asks for my opinion about it, which he rarely does, so I lay it all out there for him. I point out that SheSloth has no money, and she will NOT be given any money, so what on earth is she going to be doing at the shopping center (hint hint, I wasn't going to come right out and accuse of her of shop lifting in the past, but it seems that every time she has an unsupervised mall trip while at BM's, she has new stuff...like lacy thongs...and I KNOW her stepdad and BM don't give her money). I also point out that we don't know these friends, and that she also very recently lied about the "not boyfriend" and only fessed up that he actually was her boyfriend when a girl from her school ratted her out at the mall in front of us! I told DH, "For all we know, she could meet up with some boy at some point after she leaves the house, and go do who knows what!" DH agreed with me on this last point, and for now, had told her no, but I get the impression that she is going to wear him down by making him feel bad for not trusting her! When DH asked her if she understood why he said no, with all the attitude she could muster she says, "Yeah, because you don't trust me!" Shortly after that, he started wanting more details about the outing, and that tells me that he is considering letting her go to try to prove to her that he does trust her, because he can't stand her feeling like he doesn't! Seriously?
Oh, and as I called it...yeah, the sudden aftershcools have completely stopped since she broke up with the "not boyfriend"! Only day she stays after is Monday for color guard, and DH actually got a schedule at the color guard parent meeting to back that one. All the other "staying after to work on school work" and "staying after to help ______ with guard stuff" has abruptly halted. Sad thing is, I'm the only one that sees her pattern! When she was dating that other guy last year that I'm certain she was having sex with, she was suddenly having to stay after school for this and that every day...and when they broke up, it stopped! I'll say it again...girl ends up preggers, it's her or me! She goes back to BM's, or I'm out of here! I will NOT be grandma to her irresponsible spawn! I will not be kept up all night with a crying baby, or getting stuck taking care of it because no one else will! Oh hell no!
these fathers are so
these fathers are so stupid.
no wonder fathers get such a bad rap and lose in court most of the time.
i personally dont think there is any reason for kids of any age to "hang out" at the mall. its a waste of time. stores are where you go when you need something. they are not a babysitter/hangout spot.
NEVER! I'm so waiting for him
NEVER!
I'm so waiting for him to cave, and then tell me something like, "Well, we should probably give her a little money for lunch and whatever." Oh hell no! She has done nothing to deserve any money for anything! Especially after the bit with the dishwasher AGAIN the other night, right after being told she needed to pick up more chores to cover all the stuff that is already being provided to her that isn't required? (i.e., makeup, non-essential clothes, driving her and her friends everywhere, etc.)
I'm already expecting her to be a total brat this weekend. BS19 comes home again Thursday for his winter break, which is about a month. His birthday is Saturday (will have to start referring to him as BS20). She has always been a brat when she is around when it is my bio's birthdays. It isn't like we do anything different for them than we do for her, but she does hate that she doesn't get what she considers the start treatment. We will go out for dinner...probably BS19's favorite restaurant, because he says they don't have any kind of good Mexican food where he goes to school, and he is dying for some. He may go hang out with some friends during the day...which will piss off SheSloth even more, because she doesn't get why he gets to and she doesn't (um...he is trustworthy, and, oh yeah...he is an adult). Sunday after church, my SIL and BIL will probably want to have a get-together at their house for him. BS19 getting any kind of attention drives SheSloth insane, because SHE is supposed to be the center of attention!
I would be fearful that this
I would be fearful that this is my future with dPPP, but sadly it's my present. I am however terrified as to how much worse she will get by the time she is a teen. Do they make xanax laced wine???
I seriously cannot help but
I seriously cannot help but wonder if she had planned on meeting up with someone else. I mean, since Friday, there has been a new contact that she has been texting a whole lot! SmartLimits details any new numbers that show up that have not previously been on the monitored's phone list. This number showed up after the game Friday night, and she has been texting it constantly since...including right when she gets up in the morning...as is always the case when she is involved with a guy.
LMAO! I love you, aswang!
LMAO! I love you, aswang!
He'll finally learn when he
He'll finally learn when he becomes granddaddy. SMDH, the only time I ever went to the mall with friends was when I was shopping for school clothes or Christmas gifts, and unless the gift was for my mother I had to show her all the receits to prove I wasn't blowing the money she gave me on something stupid or illegal. My grandmother would look at the receits for my moms gift.
That is so evil...bwahahaha!
That is so evil...bwahahaha!
Perhaps it's time to have
Perhaps it's time to have your dh take her to the local Planned Parenthood and get her on birth control. He's a fuckwit.
It sound like he is going to
It sound like he is going to cave.
Yeah, whenever he starts
Yeah, whenever he starts asking for details...it's a good indication that he is going to change his mind and let her do what she wants. Not to mention, still too many days between now and Saturday for her to break him down. He better not expect to give her any money, though! And if it does end up being a legit shopping expedition with friends, I wonder what will suddenly show up that she will try to claim BM bought her weeks ago and we are just now seeing...or that so-n-so gave her for Christmas.
Make him watch a season of
Make him watch a season of TeemMom, 1 or 2 or even 3. Let him see what his precious widdle baby is up for. But...don't let her apply to that show if she does turn up pregnant.
even putting this kid on the
even putting this kid on the pill will be useless. she wont take it. she is too lazy to throw things away and can never remember anything. do you really think she could remember to take a pill?
no, the only way is to tie her tubes. end the insanity now and a future generation of morons.
So true!!! DH tried to get
So true!!! DH tried to get her to take vitamins because she "doesn't eat right" (goes through periods of starving herself to bingeing on nothing but junk food and purging...but he won't admit she has eating disorders). A bottle of vitamins that should have been gone in a month took her over a year to finish! They expired before she finished them!! When she tried to tell me she needed more vitamins, I flat out said no! Told DH, "Vitamins are not a substitute for eating right, and she doesn't take them anyway! I'm not spending $20 for something to sit on a shelf and expire!" And these were gummie vitamins.
So, yeah...if she were on the pill, it would be useless. She would never take them, or only take them when she is thinking about having sex. Girl needs a depo or those rods in her arm or something. Something that doesn't require her actively doing something. I really like the idea of just tie her tubes now! She is just like BM, and we have seen what BM has produced...SheSloth, and a son who destroys anything he can get his hands on!