Read Receipt Confirmations on Emails
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Anyone know of a free email service that includes Read Receipt Confirmation functionality? I know Gmail and Yahoo offer it, but only with the upgraded email services which cost money.
BM and DH have an agreement saying that all emails need to be read and acknowledged within 48 hours. BM claims she will not read ANY email prior to 48 hours. She waits to then turn around and claim she didn't get the email any earlier and tries to accuse DH of not communicating timely because of it.
It's dumb, and it will go no where because DH is abiding by their agreement. I just wonder if there's a way to call her out on this. We currently use Gmail.
OFW would solve this,
OFW would solve this, although i personally dont think its worth $100 a year.
Oh I agree. But BM won't
Oh I agree. But BM won't agree to OFW and these petty little things aren't worth the court costs of getting it ordered by a judge.
Problem with Read receipts is
Problem with Read receipts is they can decline it and once they do, it doesn't work again for that address. I use them all the time for confidential emails that I need proof of and half the time the recipient declines.
Right, that's how my work
Right, that's how my work email works.
I googled it and there are
I googled it and there are some free programs you can use. Getnotify.com, readnotify.com, didtheyreadit.com. I have never used any of them so not sure how they work.
Copied from getnotify.com: Will my recipient's know that I am sending a tracked Email?
No! The tracking image inserted by GetNotify is invisible to the recipient.
That would take care of the declining issue that Jsmom addresses.
I did see one program like
I did see one program like this that I looked into, but the fine print states you have to give the app access to control your email, specifically stated that it needs access to send and delete emails from your account. Not so sure I'm down with that ..
I will check out some of the others though.
If your husband has proof
If your husband has proof than he sent a email, such as a printed copy that will include the date sent, then I doubt if a judge would accept a excuse that she didn't receive it. One yes perhaps but many? This is assuming the issue actually came up in a family court hearing.
Why not send email 72 hours ahead of time?
Is there some issue that this is creating a problem or just a technical violation of a court order because if its not creating a problem then I'd leave it alone.
No, that's my point; there's
No, that's my point; there's no big pressing issue. Just BM being difficult in her stupid little ways, for no reason other than to just be difficult. Which is why it's not really worth investing money into it.
Example:
DH gets skids after school on Fridays. Agreement is silent on when exactly he gets them because they could not agree (mostly due to changing work schedules). Their parenting coordinator (PC) said they should work this out on a case by case basis due to work schedules etc. The verbal agreement (admissible in court and PC can testify to it) is that DH is to let BM know at the beginning of the week if he's picking up at school, or meeting at drop off location at 6pm.
Their legal agreement states all emails are to be read and acknowledged within 48 hours.
DH sent an email on Monday afternoon (when he confirmed his work schedule for the week), that he'd be picking skids up at school Friday. BM "didn't read the email" until mid-day today (within the 48 hour limit). She replied saying he didn't give enough notice and that girls have an appointment, so she will drop them off at drop location at 6pm Friday.
Does this really matter? Probably not. Will she continue to do this crap, ad naseum all school year? Absolutely.
In this scenario, he cannot provide any more notice than he did. He is law enforcement working a specific case that requires flexibility in his work schedule; so he cannot confirm any earlier than when he did.
ETA: I know how ridiculously petty this sounds (and is!). But it's just dumb things like this that DH is trying to put an end to. If there is an easy fix, great! If not, I guess he'll just let it ride .. what other alternative is there?
would she use OFW if you guys
would she use OFW if you guys paid her $100?
Pick the kid up at a
Pick the kid up at a specified time which would be after any possibility of a work schedule variance is over. Lets say work never lasts past 7 PM, pick the kid of at 8 PM every time. Send one email saying that from now on it'll be 8 PM. Takes all that power away from her which is worth any inconvenience. Hell make it 8 AM Saturday morning.
DH and BM have the same
DH and BM have the same agreement that they have to respond within 48 hours. BM has constantly ignored, has created problems for DH and the kids because she can't be bothered to respond, regardless of what PC said. What happens? Nothing, nothing at all.
I get your frustration, as it seems like BM is trying to take time away from DH when his time with the kids is already limited. Perhaps you can have the PC make it a requirement that email is checked daily--it only takes a second to do. Then, 48 hours to respond. I guess it would also matter what appointment is made for the skids. Honestly, if you had two reasonable adults, this would not even be an issue.
Honestly, you are looking at maybe 3 hours, and you guys live in a busy area/heavy traffic around rush hour, especially on a Friday--My guess would be there really isn't an "appointment," (like she's had in the past, but never taken the kids to) but more like BM has plans and doesn't want to do what she doesn't want. My guess is that if DH said he couldn't get them after school, but had to do 6pm, it would be a problem as well.
That's exactly it .. BM
That's exactly it .. BM doesn't have an appointment. It's only an issue because she likes to create issues.
The thing is .. kids get home from school around 3:30pm. She lives about 45 miles away, on the OTHER side of DC. She has to leave by 5pm to get them to the drop off location by 6pm. So in that 90 minutes of time she's hoarding, she has to feed them, change them (because they only come to our house in rags), rangle them into the car along with her 5 month old baby, and apparently attend some "appointment".
I know it's BS. DH knows it's BS. SHE knows it's BS.
The kicker is that DH doesn't really care about the 3 hours, per say. It's EASIER for him to drive to a half-way point and not all the way to the school and back. All the time he gains is spent sitting in traffic (which he doesn't hate because he chats it up with the skids). But the two of them get so caught up on this power-trip and calling out of the power-trip that they can't see it.