SS15 can never seem to pick dryer sheets up off the floor when he does his laundry. His bedroom floor had at least ten dryer sheets accumulated over a few weeks. When DH asked him about it, SS was just like, "UUUHHHHHHHH...I didn't notice." :O

Then again, he DOES live with BM half the time. Her apartment floor is covered with trash, so eaht's a few dryer sheets.

Also, if one of the cats has a hairball, instead of grabbing a paper towel and Clorox wipe and cleaning it up, he'll find one of us and go, "There's a hairball that needs to be cleaned up." Our response, "So clean it up!"

Today is garbage day and the trash can is at the curb. It's maybe 50% full. I asked SD8 to grab the garbage from her bathroom and deposit it in the garbage can (4-gallon size bathroom garbage bag full of mostly tissues. Maybe 5 oz heavy).

SD8 grabs the bathroom garbage bag, ties it up, replaces the old garbage bag with a fresh new one (I know, great so far, huh?!!). SM beaming with pride.

And then she walks the 5 oz bathroom garbage bag to the trash can at the end of the curb. Sets the bathroom bag on the ground next to the trash can and walks away.

Really?

My skids have PASed out but YSS when almost 7 would take very long soapless showers--he would just squat down and play/stare at the water going down the drain. Lazy biodad would NEVER supervise or tell him "time's up!" Probably because it was exhausting having to constantly entertain a stb7 yr old going on 2 who was never taught to entertain himself.

He also walked out of the house stepping on the backs of his shoes--too lazy to tie/untie (actually he refused to learn how to tie--just stuck his foot out for an adult to wait on him) OSS and SD did this too WELL past the age of 9.

I forgot to mention that YSS did this in my gravel driveway--he barely picks up his feet when he walks anyway--sort of schleps along. When he tried this on my driveway he did a spectacular faceplant causing biodad to lose it (yelled at him for about five seconds) Totally EPIC!

ive had a blissful SD-free week so i have nothing to contribute....

"I'm wondering how long it will take for DH to realize it and make her pick it up, or pick it up himself."

If he is anything like my DH, he will pick it up himself. My DH never makes his kids do anything.

They might not want to be his friends anymore.

Come to think of it, isn't that the root of most of the problems on this board? The inability and/or refusal of divorced parents to parent?

Nothing.

Well, I had the nerve to ask DH why the kids couldn't help us straighten the house after we met his mom for lunch after church and you would have thought I asked for gold. We argued for over an hour when I pointed out that they (SS 17 & SD 15 were laying on their beds doing nothing while we were cleaning the kitchen folding clothes, etc. I don't know what I was thinking so I am now in my office with the door shut, enjoying this website and drinking a glass of wine!!!

Ah yes --- the nerve we have, wondering why teenagers with working limbs can't do a single solitary thing to contribute to the household they live in.

My skids, who live here full time, do NOTHING. Not a single thing. I will get fed up and fight with my DH about it and he will promise to make them help out. But he cannot make them do anything because he is a Disney Dad. They despise their BM, so I don't know what DH is so afraid of. I suppose he doesn't want his Prince and Princess to be mad at him for even a second.

IT is beyond me why a 12 year old and a 14 year old need to be waited on. The girl did a little bit of dusting this weekend. But the boy has done nothing and has been allowed to do what ever the hell he has felt like. In fact he is at his GF's house as we speak and the vacuum is STILL sitting in front of his bedroom door, where it has been since Friday. DH has timidly mentioned his not doing his chore about fifty times and SS has laughed about it. He said he thought about it at 4:30 this morning. That kid is an asshole.

I took the vacuum and did my bathroom and bedroom at least. If DH notices he will be pissy with me that I didn't do everything. Eff him if he does …

I need that pill too … because I cannot figure out how to get over it either Terri. Same deal at my house. DH promised and promised and PROMISED that if skids came to live here full time that they would help. And we live in a bigger house than we did. Didn't happen. And now DH and I fight all the time. I am pissed off all of the time. It sucks.

I just can't stand looking at those kids laying on their butts while either me or DH does everything. It is so sickening.

My SS14 FINALLY ran the vacuum tonight at 8:45 pm. He was given this chore to do Saturday morning. And my DH had to walk along beside him and "instruct" him how to do it all. In this sickening sweet voice like he was scared SS was going to flip out. He probably was; I could tell he was pissed he was finally made to do his ONLY chore ever. The kid laid around all weekend long. He did one of three things: Slept, played Xbox, or hung out with his GF. Tough life kid, I really feel for you.

Oh - and SS still had his church clothes on from yesterday while running said vacuum tonight at 8:45 pm. Does my DH not have eyes?

I think my DH asked him no less than 50 times when he was going to do it this weekend too. WHY ARE YOU ASKING THE KID DH!?!?!?!?!? MAKE HIM DO IT! OMG it pisses me off so badly I can't even stand it. And SS was his typical smart ass self about it too when asked: OH I don't feel like it, or I was going to do it at 4am, or I'll do it when when My BM isn't an asshole. I would love to allowed to crack that kid in the mouth. }:)

So happy to have found this site and people that understand what I am going through!

We are on Spring Break and the school gave FSS(14) a math review packet to complete. He has had seven...SEVEN...days to complete it; however he has spent endless hours playing XBOX until the wee hours of the night, sleeping all day, and NOT giving an ounce of attention to the work that needed to be completed.

FDH got on his ass once and then asked me to help him. I did my best.

Me: Do you have your notes from school?

SS: No.

Me: Math workbook? Text?

SS: No.

Me: A pencil?

SS: No.

WTF??! You are 14 years old!!! How can you be this dense with all of the technology in the world? Yet, you can communicate with kids across the US and create some damn city on your XBOX game BUT you can't remember your notes from school to help you pass a test so they don't fail or keep your dumb ass back???

I sat down and worked with him on a couple of pages and with the XBOX remote control in hand he sat down reluctantly. I helped him redo the problems that I was able to spot that he did wrong - heavy sighs - and clear frustration included. But you better believe he was adamant about telling me that "I only have to do up to page six because my dad said I can stop there".

WTF.

I tried talking to FDH but I think we ALL know how that conversation started and ended.

I have the laziest ss18. Just when I think he can't get lazier....now he is peeing in empty water bottles in his room. The bathroom is right next to his room. WTF?

We all ate a Curry in the Lounge Friday night. SD14 picked up a Naan bread from the plate of them, took a bite and instead of using her side plate, she just slapped it directly onto the table.... not a care in the world

I am desparately trying to NOT let it get to me anymore...it is hard though

Omg! My 15year old step son is the laziest! He won't shower for days, brush his teeth or pick up his clothes from his room! He smells like a bum! It's a constant fight with him! Laziest step kid award should go to the smelly kid!

I just found this site! I love it! Thank you to all of you for making me feel normal!! Laziest thing my 2 SS (13 & 11) today is leaving their nasty muddy shoes in the middle of the living room where my 2yr old D can play with them and put them in her mouth. I have told them for 2 freaking years to put them in their room. I got so mad about it I have started throwing them in the front yard. When they wake up & can't find their shoes I tell him to look outside & they are so mad they have to get off their ass to get them. It secretly makes me laugh inside. DH thinks it's really mean & I should just politely remind them AGAIN!! They live with us full time 365 days a year.

My lazy SS13 can't be bothered to screw a lid on anything....peanut butter, milk, mayo ect. Today my DD2 got the great big container of animal cracker out & grabbed it by the lid & spilled all of them on the floor AFTER I swept the kitchen. Last night my SS11 knocked over the milk jug...which it would have been fine if SS13 would have put I mean "screwed" the cap on. When I tell him almost everyday to "put" the cap back on he says "I did" with a smart ass smirk. So I have to speak in kindergarten language and say screw the cap on EVERYTHING!!! He tells me "I'm just helping who ever uses it next" I say " please stop trying to help everyone (WTF EVER!) & just do it. DH tells me you really need to learn to pick your battles!!!!!!

Onions? The hell?? I'm.... trying to think of ANY reason to have onions in your bedroom and I'm coming up blank.

I got you ALL BEAT!!!!

Okay, it's not helping my BP that I am reading through ALL of these comments (2 pages worth so far) and I am saying to myself.
"Yup! My SS has done that. Yup! He's done that too...Yup! Yup! Yup!..."

I've written about this before, but I still remember the angry blasting DW gave him one day when she couldn't understand why SS was going through 10 - 12 sets of clothing per week and creating a mountain pile of laundry. It finally dawned on us what SS was doing. In the morning, he would pick out a shirt or a pair of jeans and put them on. If he didn't like it, he would remove it and just dump it on the floor.

SS is also notorious for turning the TV on to watch something and then just walk away to preoccupy himself with something else. I can't tell you the amount of times I return home to find the TV on but no one watching it. So I turn it off. SS would come back in the living room later and ask "What happened to the TV!?" as if he doesn't realize that the TV has an OFF button.

And the all time best....Personal hygeine is a chore and done once or twice a week. Except SS can't remember when he performed them. "Did I take a shower yesterday?" Oh, and I just discovered the other day that when he *does* take a shower he sometimes decides to take a piss too AT THE SAME TIME!!! His excuse - "Well I had to go!". You mean to tell me you didn't have the presence of mind to empty the lizard BEFORE you got in the shower!?!? Numnuts!