Stepson Keeps Hurting Daughter
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My SS is 12. I have a 2 year old and 1 year old with DH. SS has been purposely hurting my 2 year old. He told me he wished we only had the 1 year old. We have a rule where he isn't allowed aloe with them. Even if I ave to go to the bathroom, he needs to go to his room. Yesterday, my inlaw's were here, and he pushed a swing into DD's face apparently on purpose. She fell down and he laughed in her face. My MIL reprimanded him, but I'm getting sick of him hurting her. We were recently told he is either bipolar or a sociopath by his psychiatrist. Both concern me. I want to protect my daughter, but I'm not sure hw. I'm scared that one day e will seriously hurt her. What should I do?
Call the police and let them
Call the police and let them send him to juvie.
I'm sorry, but I would refuse
I'm sorry, but I would refuse to allow SS12 around me or my kids again if he's this way. Does he have a mother he can live with?
He hasn't seen his BM in 7
He hasn't seen his BM in 7 years. She barely bothers with him. I have told DH that if he continues to hurt her, I will have no choice but to leave. The psychiatrist told me that if he seriously hurts her to call the police. I'm just worried that something bad will happen in the meantime. He did this right in front of my MIL. Clearly, he doesn't care. I love DH, but he consistently ignores the issues.
I have to ask why would a
I have to ask why would a doctor advise you to wait until she's seriously hurt?
What if seriously hurt is irreparable damage either physically or psychologically?
If it were I, I would probably pack up my two children and leave. I don't think I could stand the stress of waiting until he did something "serious" to justify my reasons for taking action to protect my children.
Get your kids and get out. SS
Get your kids and get out. SS is WAY past the age where you might say he doesn't really understand and he will grow out of it. He knows exactly what he's doing and he won't stop. Any person who can willingly hurt a baby and think its funny can't be fixed... You can't keep putting your kids in danger over this relationship.
Please, please listen to me -
Please, please listen to me - your SS needs a full psych work up. We are going through this with my SS from my last marriage. He has been in patient for 3 weeks now and is headed to a residential treatment center.
The only way in which we were lucky in this case is that he told his Dad that he was feeling suicidal and also had recurring thoughts about killing his parents and step-parents (me). Even though we are not still married we all get along and still function as an intact family on frequent occassions.
For example, ex-DH, SS and my current DH, his extended family and our kids all spent Thanksgiving at my parents house. I tell you this only to illustrate that we are still very much a part of his life.
Depending on your SS's diagnosis they can determine a treatment plan. BUT - if you continue to live with this child his behavior is going to escalate and you will regret not acting sooner.
If your DH wont take the necessary steps, get your kids and go to a safe place until he does what is right for his son.
I will be praying for you - this is such a difficult place to be in.
I agree with the posters that
I agree with the posters that state he needs a full psychological diagnositc exam. There is a lot of disagreement when it comes to the labeling of children as sociopaths, many Dr.s say that diagnosis under age 18 is impossible as the juvenile criteria for a sociopath has not yet been met. Best bet is for him to have a mental examination ASAP.
I would love to get him more
I would love to get him more help, but DH does nothing. He has never been to school, the therapist, or anything! I'm limited in what I can do, so I feel helpless.
Then definitely need to leave
Then definitely need to leave if DH isn't doing anything. Leave now before your baby is hurt permanently by this kid.