Child support vent/state bitch..
I have been divorced from my first husband since my son was 15 months old. I have been remarried for 14 years to a man that even my son from the first marriage forgets he is not biodad.
Biodad is about 13.5 years behind child support. We are talking before compounding interest 70,000 With compounding interest is is well over 100,000. My ex has not seen his son since he was 3.
My son is friends with his grandparents on Facebook. Ex is friends with his own family. Often Ex post were he works....which changes fairly often. However why the hell can the state not catch his ass? Seriously, my son is almost 17 years old. He needs the money for college.
My son is very angry at this man because he isn't hidden. We have always had contact with the ex-il's. Son has gone visit them! But bd just lives his life like he doesn't exist.
It pisses me off, because my son was planned.
He is not suppose to be
He is not suppose to be licensed but he is...I am suppose to get his taxes, I don't. Seriously at this rate I will see it when I get his social security check. I don't doubt that I will need it then....but damn. My kid goes to college in two years. He has a scholarship for tuition but books and housing is going to kill us. I don't see were the money is going to come from. We are hoping for more scholarship/grant money -- but it would be nice to have that money in. He worked hard for this scholarship. If possible I don't want him to leave school with debt or have to have a job - other than intern/co-op opportunities.
Move to NY, MA, or
Move to NY, MA, or CA!!!!
They will get on him like white on rice as the above three are TOTALLY pro-BM states. They are cash strapped states so they prize that matching fed dollar for every CS dollar they collect.
That's laughable - my mother
That's laughable - my mother never got a dime of child support from my bio-dad in MA. Regardless of her tracking him and reporting his whereabouts to the state.
That's laughable. I am owed
That's laughable. I am owed >$50K in CA. Never got a penny...
My husband is $5K in arrears
My husband is $5K in arrears and they are after him like the gestapo. They go after him with a fury and then some, placing liens and levies on whatever they can! And he's only in arrears because the state took so long with determining paternity, they awarded back support. This is in MA.
Move to Texas...even if you
Move to Texas...even if you don't owe any money they still make it up so they can garnish your wages and ruin your credit...sigh...and of course, get their "government, ie. our social security money" match too..
They sure do. The AG offices
They sure do. The AG offices in Texas cannot be trusted. They will say a man is behind in child support when he is not, just to get him in court.
If you are desperate you can
If you are desperate you can hire one of those 3rd party child support collectors. They will take up to 30% of the child support collected but that is better than nothing. State enforcement rates are usually under 20% successful and these agencies have a much higher success rate.