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Submitted by MarchMom11 on Tue, 07/17/2012 - 12:08am

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I have a couple questions, I have 2 stepkids that are about to turn 9. I was just wondering if kids at this age try to be younger? Like they ask me if they can suck on their little sister's pacifier, or drink out of one of her sippy cups, and they also ask if they can get in her pack n play and play with her ( when she never uses it) after I've already explained they are to big and they will break it.

2nd question: what do you do about constant sibling fighting? It's ALL the time, they can't go five minutes without fighting. One will say he hit me then the other because this, or they won't share, or I don't want to watch that movie.... I just don't know what to do to help them get along.

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Submitted by giveitago on Tue, 07/17/2012 - 9:42am

I agree with you. I am the eldest too!
What I would like to say about kids regressing, in particular SKids here, is that they seem to remain at the age they were when parents split. We have SKids, twins, boy and girl and this incident occurred when they were 12. Incidentally they were always fighting and making up instantly. We had a power out and The SKids were hyper with candles etc. Next thing is SD screams at SS 'let's be 8 again' and they ran out naked to the pool! They are twins, they shared a uterous, they have seen each other naked before so no big deal there...we are sheltered from neighbors by a huge fence. Then it struck me, that's when their parents split, I did not meet any of them until the twins were 10 but always it seems like it's in the back of their minds to keep that time alive.
Does anyone else feel that's a correlation to their situation, or am I imagining things?

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Submitted by janeyc on Tue, 07/17/2012 - 1:38pm

In my experience yes they do, my Sd6 wanted me to bottle feed her the other day, or she wants me to hold her like a baby, then I get the baby speak goo goo gaa gaa, I just say don't be silly, I think its an awareness that they are getting older, life is so simple and stree free when you are a baby. It is'nt something that I would encourage though.