Discipline Ideas
Skids are 7, 6 and 5 years old. I have been asking around about some discipline ideas to get the skids minding better. I got spanked when I was little, I learned my lesson and that was that. But obviously that is a big no no nowadays; which I think is dumb. So skids of mine either get sent to the corner, to their room or get a toy taken away. That has never worked for them, its too easy; they will just do what they was doing 5 mins later. So I thought up of an idea which seems to be working GREAT!
When they do something wrong they have to sit on the wall. What I mean by sit on the wall is this
http://exercise.about.com/b/2007/01/30/exercise-of-the-week-wall-sits.htm
I make them do it one minute per how ever old they are. Which for the oldest SD she gets 7 minutes because she is 7 years old. After words I have them tell me why they had to sit on the wall and not to do it again, hug them and that’s that.
Anyone of you have any other discipline ideas to add?
They stole your thunder. I
They stole your thunder. I got on here looking for your post asking about the green beans.
I've tried the green bean can
I've tried the green bean can with my skids before... don't work that well for them, they think its a game. ;/
Great ideas! We arent against
Great ideas! We arent against spanking, but time outs work better for my skids
Good idea, if you can get
Good idea, if you can get your skids to do it. My SS would just ignore me if I told him to do something like that.
I'm not sure the times are going to work. My DH has the P90X workout and I've tried it. The fitness test has a wall sit like that and just doing a minute is agony. They recommend being able to do like 2 minutes to be fit enough to do that workout which means your in reasonably good shape.
My DH wouldn't even be able to do 7 minutes on a wall sit.
I was thinking the same
I was thinking the same thing. A 7 min. wall sit is way too long.
What kinds of things are you needing to discipline for? The discipline should meet the infraction.
Kids have a lot more muscle
Kids have a lot more muscle strength then people realize. Most kids can do pull ups, and monkey bars, however I have seen adults fail at both. It is possible for a child to do wall sits and it is possible for adults to do them too. It is a mind over matter, you can force your body to do something that you truly have to do. Would it hurt for most adults to do 7 minutes of wall sits, if you dont work out then yes but that doesnt mean you cant do it.
I *get* mind over matter. I
I *get* mind over matter. I could do things my coaches didn't believe until I showed them. But do you want your skids to improve their behavior, or do you wanna get shot in your sleep when they get older?
I got spanked with a wooden
I got spanked with a wooden spoon that left welts and I have never shot anyone.
I’m not sure about that.
I’m not sure about that. Maybe 6 minutes of whining and 1 minute of actually doing anything, but it depends on the kids. If it’s the typical overweight kids today, I’d say 7 minutes is way too much.
If kids can't walk after doing 7 minutes of wall sits when they go to school the next day, I'd be worried about social services showing up at my door.
After that little girl died while being forced to run for hours by her stepmother and grandmother, if a skid told his teacher about his stepmom making him do a wall sit for 7 minutes, that might look like abuse.
A good old fashioned spanking
A good old fashioned spanking is legal in all 50 states. Anyone acting en loco parentis can do it.
Check out your state laws at this site.
http://kidjacked.com/legal/spanking_law.asp
What worked well for us in addition to spanking was sentences. Hundreds and thousands of them depending on the age of the kid. Taylor the sentence to the crime to keep the kids mind of the infraction. One messy sentence adds another hundred. The beauty of this is that it gets the miscreant kid away from the rest of the family for hours and when it is all said and done that kid will have great handwriting.
Anyone acting in a parental
Anyone acting in a parental or resposible position over the child. SParents, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Teachers, etc......
I wouldn't recommend spanking
I wouldn't recommend spanking for stepparents because you don’t know how these kids are going to reaction.
My DH tried to spank SS (almost 12) after he terrorized DD 3.5 and the result was SS wedged himself under his bed and wet himself. DH had to take the bed apart to get him out.
You don’t know what crazy stuff skids are going to do and the last thing you want to do is put yourself at risk to be blamed for whatever they do.
My skids are manipulative as
My skids are manipulative as hell! Oldest SD7 has got the okay from her stupid grandpa that if we even spank at ALL he will call the cops. She has even said "My grandpa said if you spank us, you will go to jail!" Every bruise they get from playing or fighting with each other gets blamed on US, by the skids themselves! The skids actually tell grandpa and BM that we beat them; and we DONT do any such thing! Oldest shoved her youngest sister into the ladder on their bunk beds 2 weeks ago. youngest had a bruise on her hip. Youngest told grandpa that daddy beat her. Well when I found out about what bruise it was, I got onto oldest about not sticking up for her Dad, and letting youngest lie instead of her telling the truth. Long story short, if BM and grandpa really wanted to. Skids all get bruises at some point or another... they hate staying here at me and DH house because we don't put up with bullshit; so they would lie to get to stay with BM full time.
So we have came up with this method. I think 7 minutes is perfect for oldest who is 7. She wants to claim we beat them, and not fess up to her wrong doings... then she can have something that burns WAY worse than a simple spankin. As for her constant back talk, a couple licks of good ol’ bar soap