The return of Butt-Head
Good morning StepTalk,
For those of you who may read my postings, you know that my SD17 returned last night for summer visitation with my DW. SD17 was sent to live with her father back in February after it was discovered that SD was cutting 5-10 classes a week, smoking pot, and secretly dating gangbaners. SD17's bio-daddy, aka Mr. Walking Anus, has been dealing with her for the past 3 months. Now, though, school is out, and she is here. Uggh.
I know that I shouldn't complain too much, since SD is now gone most of the year, but she is already getting on my nerves. Upon reaching our house, the first thing that SD did was plop down on the couch and start watching her ridiculous TV shows. She is a big fan of obnoxious "prank" shows like Jackass, and will literally sit in front of the TV for hours on end, laughing like "Butt-Head" the whole time. I am seriously thinking of calling SD17 "Butt-Head" on here, because she laughs EXACTLY like Butt-Head. And of course, the shows that are making her laugh are played at a high level of volume, and include "bleeps" every couple of seconds because they contatin so much profanity.
Of course it goes without saying that SD just plopped all of her crap down on the floor of the living room. It would never cross her mind to put it up in her bedroom. She just leaves it wherever she feels like leaving it, and DW says nothing.
Also, DW brought back a bunch of shell casings from her dad's house. I know this because several of them spilled out of her backpack onto the living room floor. I pointed this out to DW, and she said it's "no big deal, they are just shell casings. They aren't live bullets." When she said this, I said "Well, if she has shell casings, I'm sure she could get actual bullets, and probably has them." DW, of course, had no response to this. I wonder if SD17 is trying to send me a "message?"
Lastly, it is good to see that SD17 still has a tremendously over-inflated sense of her importance in the world. DW recently quit her job so that she can travel with me for my work. When she told SD17 about this, SD17 said it was a "mistake," and that DW shouldn't quit her job just so she can supervise SD during the summer break. Although we had considered this during the decision for my DW to quit, it was a minor factor. But of course, SD17 thinks that she is that the world revolves around her, and that DW would quit work just to keep an eye on her.
It is going to be a long summer. I hope that I get an assignment for work soon.
By the way, I meant that SD
By the way, I meant that SD brought shell casings into our house, not DW.
Get her a TV for her room, I
Get her a TV for her room, I would'nt let my sd take control of the TV, it is sad that you are looking forward to going to work, rather than stay at home, perhaps you should start putting your crap on the floor, bet she won't like that ha ha? Your wife is disrespecting you, I've said to you before its your home too!!!
Yeah, it is pretty sad. It
Yeah, it is pretty sad. It is really unusual for me to be home from work this time of year, so I guess part of it is my fault for not developing a better plan if I ended up being at home, as I am.
DW is actually quite supportive of my disengagement, so I do try to work with her. The best approach I've come up with is to camp out in the bedroom. She has committed to trying to keep SD busy during the day as much as possible, but it is still not ideal. Really looking forward to heading out to work.
My ss is also a fan of
My ss is also a fan of plopping his ass on the MY couch and watching MY tv. For a couple of months I hid out in my bedroom. Now, I dont. If he's watching tv in my living room and I dont want him to-I simply walk over and turn it off. My house, my TV. It makes him irate, but as I told him just yesterday, "You dont make the rules in this house, in fact you dont even have a say". Or I will come in and change it to something I want. Or yesterday as he was being super annoying-I told him just to leave the room. Rude? Perhaps. But he is rude ALL THE TIME and asking nicely gets nowhere with him-it's like you never even spoke.
I am not willing to allow myself to feel uncomfortable in MY home. If anybody is going to feel uncomfortable it's going to be HIM.
Why isn't Butthead working
Why isn't Butthead working this summer?
A fair question, as she is
A fair question, as she is old enough.
I'm sure that DW would be opposed to this on general principal, since she doesn't want to impose any expectations on SD.
A second, and more worrying reason, is that SD17 might say that she was going to work just to get out of the house. Once out, she could be picked up by some of her stoner/gangbanger friends, and then get into who-knows-how much trouble.
When I had a problem with
When I had a problem with steps and TV I routed the power cord back into the TV through a locking switch. I had the key and could turn off the power at will.
They watched the TV I wanted them to watch and that was the end of endless TV in the living room - unless of course an adult wanted to watch it.
If you're not techologically inclined you can purchase all sorts of electrical wiring locks on the internet.
http://www.facilityproducts.com/electrical-lockout.php
Get a small bedroom TV with rabbit ear antennas so she can stay in her room all summer and watch cartoons - no cable of course.
My parents put me on work
My parents put me on work lock down when I turned 17! They not only made me bring my schedule each week and post it on the fridge they called work to "talk to me" and they also dropped by occasionally just to make sure I was there! Now was this a pain in the butt for them? I'm sure it was. But I was out of the house, laying my attitude on someone else at least a couple of hours a day. I think that relief was what made it worth the hassle to them!