One year ago I met the most loving man, best partner, and my best friend. We have been one another's everything. My eyes are tearing as I type this and I ask for advice, criticism, and empathy coming here to vent. He told me about his 3 children right away from a previous relationship over 15 years ago ages 16 son, 17, and 18 year old daughters. They were abandoned by their mother while he was sent to prison in 1995. They were in the care of their grandfather and from 2003 til 2009 they were in CPS care. My fiancée was released from prison in 2010 and immediately tried to establish a relationship with his children. He told them he missed them and loved them and cried tears apologizing for his abcense as a father except through letters. Right away my heart went out to his children. I've been a single divorced mother of two well mannered and respectable children. My 17 year old daughter is everything you could ask for. Beautiful, smart, responsible, and independent. She will graduate this year and going away to college. I've greatly influenced her young womanhood. My son is 13, he is a musician, baseball player, and an active roller bladder. He has his days when he may backtalk or be sluggish in doing his homework. No major problems that i can't handle with my son. Their father in in jail. Back to my SC, their BM is a habitual liar. She is a 34 year old drunk and depends on her poor old mother to provide for her and her other two teenage daughters. Last June my fiancée and children came to live with me and my children for the Summer. Its been hell ever since. My SS is a user, liar, profanity in every sentence talker, not wanting to go to school, and disregards his father as a father. They all say he wasn't there for them so he has no say so. He has made absurd accusations to CPS regarding our care just because we grounded him after running away because we grounded him for cursing his father out and getting kicked out of summer school. The case was investigated and closed but I was traumatized. I've always been there for my children and that scared me. The whole system scares me. His 17 year old daughter is unfortunately an inheritance of her BM habitual lying gene. She lies about everything from small to night. She instigates between her BM and I. She has drama every week at school, the same one my daughter attends. She has no true friends and her judgment of boyfriends are poor. She is sexually active and sleeps around with multiple boys. I noticed she has mental illness symptoms and got her into therapy and to see a psychiatrist. She is bipolar, ptsd, and depressed. I've welcomed them since day one. I've tried to be what they say they yearned for. A mother. This includes the bonding time, the dinners, the life lesson talks, the I'm here for yous, the time and effort to give them love and show them they can be loves and are worthy of love. BUT now its backfired on my fiancée and I. Since November we have been buckling down on discipline. They have since made our lives hell since we've incorporated discipline in their lives. We cant be true parents and not discipline them. Now we are the bad guys and I am the evil stepmother which only wants their dad to myself according to them. His son has ran away numerous times. He is now reported as a runaway for the 6th. He said two weeks ago and I quote "I just need a babysitter til I turn 17 then I'm leaving." His birthday in in July which is also the anniversary of the day their BM left them to CPS. Can you imagine? Dropped off on your birthday to CPS. I had open arms for him when i first learned this. Now i see he doesn't care about anyone but his girlfriend and trying to start a family of his own at 17. That's a nightmare in the making. His 17 year old daughter is the only one left her now along with my two children. The 18 is on her own with a baby and a boyfriend living a tough life. The 17 year old is in therapy and it doesn't seem to work. She uses therapy sessions for attention. She makes up stories to shift the focus of her misbehaving. Last weekend she lied to us regarding her whereabouts. She came home at 2am in the morning drunk. Psychological meds and alcohol do not mix. Sunday her father and I expressed our disappointment in her and grounded her. Monday they go to therapy, i am sick with bronchitis and couldn't go, her father returns to say that she completely shifted attention from her actions and pointed out everything that he hasn't been to her ans how my children get everything. Mind you they have lots of privilege becuase they are not behavior issues. Naturally, we have tension when we come home and i speak with my fiancée on the issues she brought up. We agreed that we would let hee know she wasn't getting away from accepting responsibility for her actions and enforce grounding. At 2 am this morning she tells me via text from her bedroom that she's " taking more medication than usually and she has no purpose here. My body is feeling weak and its my time to go." Seconds later i check on her and she is literally acting as if she passed out with a classic pose of being unconscious. I try to "wake" her and she is "unresponsive". Mind you she only took 3 Zoloft that were left in her bottle. I'm sure because i count them everyday. Well 2 minutes later while I'm calling 911 her father comes into the room and she all of a sudden is talking and crying and begging nit to go to the hospital but asking him to stay with her. EMS gets here and they advice she was completely fine. Just lacking attention she desires. I'm at my end here. My children and i have been through alot as well from my first marriage. We haven't had a peaceful home since I've whole heartedly welcomed them here. My fiancée allows his guilt for not being in their lives to be a ball and chain to his children. He's not happy and wont admit it. I don't trust the kids and have little to no desire to be everything but a stepmother to them. Since he propesed to me in February things have gotten worse and i feel like she is the wolf in sheep's clothing lurking in my house. Someone tell me.what i need to do. My fiancée doesn't want to choose tough love as a method of parenting. He makes excuses for them just as much as they do for themselves. He gave her what she wanted after Ems Left tonight becuase she was alert and responsive. He is asleep in her bedroom monitoring her which is exactly what she wants. Time passed and she's not a baby anymore but she wishes for him to treat her that way. He does and we continue with this cycle. I'm exhausted.