I really need help on this one!! I dont understand maybe I am missing something here?
:? So sd's come home with this huge envelope filled with pictures, hummm... okay they gave them to me and said oh my mom said you and dad can have these piictures of us mom found them and though you guys might want them... i though oh thats cool when they were babies and stuff ok I am okay with that-because they are of the girls...
well i opened it up and it was a ton of pictures of her and my husband together and him her and the girls... i thought why do i want these??? I told the girls how nice of your mom to give these to us... thanks... i did not want to gie her the pleasure of upsetting me with this stuff. then i was signing scotlyn's assignement notebook for school and she said look my mom taped a picture in there for me and sure enoughit was her dad and mom together---seriously are you kidding me!! this chick is nuts I think... what the heck should i di with these pictures---seriously i really dont want them.
The goal is to cause
The goal is to cause problems. Don't feed the monster any satisfaction.
If anyone is going to react to her it should by your SO, not you. This is where he should come in and defend the sancity of your relationship.
Crazy lady! I am lucky in
Crazy lady! I am lucky in that DH can't stand BM and so has no pictures of just the two of them together and no desire to have any.
I would immediately separate the pictures into two piles:
- Pictures of DH and BM only. Give these to Dh and let him decide how to handle.
- Pictures with both Dh and stepkids. Put these away somewhere for the kids to have when they get bigger.
DH would love to get something like this from BM just because when they split up (SD was 2), BM made a point of taking nearly every picture in the house. So DH has almost NO pictures of SD for the first two years of her life. I found what I could last time we moved and make him a little album just so he would have "something."
HUH??? I would immediatly get
HUH???
I would immediatly get all them pictures and burn them....
sorry.....How horrid of the BM to send that....My GF came accross a porno of the EX and her DH once....it was just as upsetting for her....
GET THE PICS AND BURN THEM NOW...they do not belong in your home.....If the BM wants them, fine....she can keep them in her home....
Dont say anything to anyone...just throw them in the fire now...
Perfect. That will drive bm
Perfect. That will drive bm insane. Make a big deal about it.... Take them to the craft store to help pick everything out, and spend the afternoon making the box nice. Put it in the attic/basement and you come off looking fantastic.
That's a great idea. I was
That's a great idea.
I was thinking she should burn the pictures, place the ashes in a sealed box and have the girls give it to mom.
thanks!! Ithink I will put
I came across some pics like
I came across some pics like that once in my house of my DW and her ex. She didn't bring them in with her, same thing, her kids did. So I burnt them while no one was around. Tough shit.
And make sure you take a
And make sure you take a photo of the box and send it back with them. }:)
Killing with kindness is not illegal you know.
Cast: DD23 / GD5 (DDs daughter/ My granddaughter) / LD (loserdad to GD5)/ LDGF (Loserdad girlfriend
DD23 and LD have 50/50 custody however on LDs weeks DD23 picks GD5 up form school and takes care of her uintil LD or LDGF picks her up.
So far LDGF has been quite snippy and DD23 hasn't a reason why...DUH! Because LD has told her about what a terrible person you are of course..!
So I suggested DD23 makes a packet of brownies up and ices them with GD5 and sends them back when LDGF picks GD5 up from DD23s place. See, LDGF works during the day and DD23 works part time in the evening. And she 'understands' how tired LDGF must be at the end of the day...blah blah blah.
Now LDGF is not stupid and will start to wonder why LD says such mean things about DD23 when she does nice things for LDGF. Foiled again LD!
Thats the nearly perfect
Thats the nearly perfect solution....
I would have liked to see my DH do the same and snatch the phone off the child to say this:
'you sick women...how dare you send a book of pictures of me in the most miserable time of my life....ie...with you....around here to my new lovely wife' You should be ashamed of yourself....no wonder we despise you....now grow up'
I think that if some men talk down to their ex wives like this...they may stop such ridiculous behaviour occuring in the future...
but nonetheless...Bravo Echo....just what you love to read....I wouldnt mind going up to the attick and see what I can find up there
DH has no pictures of them
DH has no pictures of them together. He prefers it that way. I have some of me with my ex and an old boyfriend in an album I never look at in the bottom shelf of an old bookshelf. They mean nothing to me so I haven't even bothered going to the effort of going through them and burning them. I think doing that might suggest there is still some feeling involved.
Those pictures their child gave you are his now and he should decide what he wants to do with them. Just give them to him. By asking her children to give them to you, it suggests she is willing to use her children to fight you. That's a bad sign (for her children) and they need your understanding and friendship.
For the children's sake, do nothing. Come here and vent instead. She's being a cow. Our BM is willing to use the children as weapons too.
Our BM does out her drawers every now and then and the skids come home with some old piece of clothing or photo of DH's from the past. I think she likes drawing it out and reminding him every now and then that they used to be together. He has kept some photos(like the one of him sailing when he was a competitive yachtsman in his 20s - I like that one too) but what he really wants from her house is his power tools. No sign of those yet....I wouldn't be surprised if she sent photos of them together but I have never seen any and I am really grateful to DH for that.