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Submitted by farleyr00 on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 9:15am

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Blended Family Issues

I am close to finalizing my divorce. I have 3 children... 13 yo girl, 10 yo girl & 4 yo boy. I do have a girlfriend now that I really love. She has 3 children... 14 yo boy, 12 yo boy & 10 yo girl.
I just found out today from my sister that my oldest daughter hates my girlfriend and her kids. I didn't see it at all. She always seemed to have fun with us. She texted my nephew and told him she hates them and wishes they were never born.
My gf's oldest son is a problem, I do know this. He is very disrespectful to his mother and I have been working on this. Her kids tell me all the time how much they like me. So, when I tell them to do something they usually listen to me. It is when their mother tells them that the problems start.
I have several issues and just not sure what/how to deal with them. Just looking for some ideas.

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Submitted by farleyr00 on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 10:01am

She seems fine when she is with us other than the oldest boy. So, hopefully she was just venting. Should I just let it work itself out or address it?

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Submitted by duct_tape on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 9:24am

Ideas on what? How to deal with her kids for her? Ideas on whether you should run fast in the other direction? Or if your daughter's just being a teenager?

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Submitted by farleyr00 on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 10:00am

I guess the first question is how should I address my daughters issues. #1 I think is my gf's oldest son. He makes everyone uncomfortable with his disrespectful attitude towards his mother. My kids aren't use to that.

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Submitted by farleyr00 on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 10:05am

I definitely am going to be careful with the teens. My sister had a similar issue with her step son. thank you for your advice.

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Submitted by my.kids.mom on Thu, 02/16/2012 - 1:34am

I don't understand why the kids have even met yet if the divorce isn't even final. HUGE mistake. And it's funny that the only kids you have problems with are the 13 and 14 yr olds. Duh. Doesn't take a genius to figure that one out.