what is the best way to act after a breakup when they try to contact u??
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BTW, the look on his face was priceless when I told him he is inconsiderate and I'm done with him.... and walked out the front door. bam!!!
He hasn't tried to contact me, but it's only been a day. I;m sure he will call me. In order to really sock-it-to-him, should I:
1) Answer and politely tell him to never call me again. Act non-challant and Very calm
2) Answer and immedietely hang up, not allowing him the chance to speak or leave a VM.
3) let it go to VM and delete it w/o listening.
4) change my number
5) answer and let him know how hurt I am and to leave me alone forever.
if your totally done with
if your totally done with him..dont bother.. he will think you are opening the door again if you respond at all. im sure he knows how bad he hurt you !!! my opinion...
yes, it's OVER...I'm DONE. I
yes, it's OVER...I'm DONE. I think its best to just let it go to VM and dont bother calling him back...
My suggestion is to block his
My suggestion is to block his number, if you can, so you won't even know if he tries to call you. You said what you had to say, and your silence should continue to speak for you. Break ups are a bitch, aren't they? {{{hugs}}}
im sorry to hear that but its
im sorry to hear that but its appparent that your done ! hope all turns out for you now !!! i have so many issues and i wish some times i could feel like you and say IM DONE and be done!
good luck with the whole break up!
I just have a basic phone.
I just have a basic phone. can't block him.
You should be able to log
You should be able to log onto your account with the cell service provider and block it from there.
change your number
change your number
Honestly, I'd like to answer
Honestly, I'd like to answer and tell him to fuck off (sooo not like me to drop the F-bomb) and good luck finding someone as kind as me. Nobody will want you with 2 kids and 2 baby mamas and a house the size of a cracker jack box.
but i think he will get a rise over my answering, so I'll probably refrain.
the signs are there to run
the signs are there to run and im so glad your strong and can see its toxic! i wish i would of ran at the signs i got!
I think you should not
I think you should not answer. My case is simliar. He does not even have a house but it is about 2 Bm and two kids from them. He did not text or call the BM but his daughter will text at 7-8 p.m which I suspect was initiated by the BM . I think actually that the BM texted from the phone of his daughter- she is manipulative like that. My ex liked the attention and he did not care even if it was under the control of the BM that the texts were made. So I had enough when he told me I am jelous and was preventing him from communicating with his daughter.I just wanted to cut down a pattern in its inception. I asked him to call his daughter but he liked to text away the night.I was not in agreement with the end of my day being spent with him texting to his BM and his daughter. Give me a break you just spend the weekend catering to your daughter and taking her for alone time to the movies ignoring your son.I just donot get it why he becomes a complete whimp when the BM calls- his voice lowers and he does not even dare to say and stand up to her for anything. He is like a different person.So instead of marriage license and engagement announcement to his family - I packed my backs and left.
DO NOT ANSWER.DO NOT LISTEN TO VOICEMAILS. I feel so much better, happpier and lighter. I told him everything how I felt , what I felt and how I was mistreated and abused by his mother, his daughter and his BM and him. He chose not to sit down and talk like two adults.I let it all out- cried, mourned etc.Now I am free and he cannot make me go back to this insanity that I survived for 3 1/2 years. I wondered why I have nightmares, was depressed and had anxiety.
Hang in there!Do not go back and settle for less than what you deserve.
His actions showed a complete
His actions showed a complete lack of respect for your time and efforts. And you had recently discussed your displeasure so he should have been on his best behavior. Good for you for putting your foot down and taking a stand.
I wouldn't answer the phone. Sooner or later he'll get the message and will stop calling.
You deserve better. Good luck.
Leftfield - I noticed your
Leftfield - I noticed your previous post where you mentioned the situation with the pizza, the ingredients you bought and your OH's reaction. I was thought he was so rude and ignorant towards you, no wonder you have had a tit full of him.
Personally, I would ask. What is your gut telling you to do? What do YOU want to do?
The reason I say this is because so many SM's put with months/YEARS of bloody hassle, thoughtfulness, selfishness and hurt - so much so that if it comes to the point where they decide its over then they more than deserve some closure over the situation and that includes an opportunity to let rip on these men and their sheer bloody awfulness without giving them the opportunity to get one over on you. So if you want to answer the phone and torture him, then imo he deserves it. I am not a spiteful person, but I do believe in people reaping what they sow. So if you decide you will answer his call, make sure you have written down a speech of everything you succinctly want to tell him - say it calmly, coldly and in control and then put the phone down before he can interject. Just in case, guess what he may say or do and have cold responses to these - rely on the idea that this man is nothing, of no importance so that means no rising to any low blows, emotional blackmail - just laugh and tell him to run along while replacing the phone onto its hook. It will KILL him, he isnt getting the response he wants from you and realise YOU are the one finally in control of this situation.
Then dont answer again and be satisfied you have said whats on your mind, and find that peace within yourself to get over him and the emotions he has stirred up and ensure he cant speeak to you again!