Hey there! Its my first time on this thing and I really need to vent to someone. Venting to DH isn't going well. Here is my situation I have SD15 and SS9, I have been in their life since they were 3 and 9. We have had full custody of them for 5 years now. I do everything I can for them, I am in the mother role, but I understand I can't / and am NOT trying to replace their BM. Their BM gets supervised visits for 2 hours every other week, so you can just imagine what an awesome person she is. I had nothing to do with the breakup of DH and BM, BM had 2 kids with someone else. Any way back to the issue at hand. SD15 has all sorts of resentment issues with me which stem from not being fulfilled with her relationship with BM. Some examples, leaving me out of family drawings, remembering everyone's birthday but mine, writing passive agressive things in my mothers day cards, picking apart my every action and telling counselors and friends how aweful I am etc. This has nothing to do with me, yet she takes it all out on me. Everyone (counselors, psychologists, DH)is suggesting I just suck it up and that is what comes with the territory of being a step mom. I feel like they are exusing her behavior b/c she has issues, and we always have to play with kid gloves, and walk on egg shells. I'm being told that I'm the parent and that goes with the territory and I shouldn't let her actions / attitudes bother me. How can I not let that bother me? I've invested a lot in the my relationship with my SKids and it hurts, it is supposed to be some semblance of a 2 way street. Has anyone else had these issues / feelings? Should we bring up the resentment with SD15 at home, against the wishes of the psycologists we see?